I am totally upside down over this girl who told me she just wants to be friends. In most cases I would agree that moving on would be the best course of action.
Here's where it gets complicated. She's been hurt in the past and now has issues when it comes to getting emotionally close to people. For example, she only chases after emotionally unavailable guys. You know, the kind that you can't have a real relationship with. Since I'm not one of those guys, I'm not her ideal candidate. But, if she only wants to be friends and isn't interested in me romantically, why is she willing to spend the night with me in my bed? Nothing has happened thus far, but am I wrong in thinking that it might? Do I hold out in the hopes that she'll warm up to me and develop feelings for me or do I cut her loose and keep her at a distance?
Help me please!
2007-01-20 06:56:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand that she's been hurt in the past, most of us have including me. I'm just getting mixed signals. She thinks I'm a blast to be around and says she loves hanging out with me. Then of course she spends the night and nothing happens. Not that I want to rush things, I'm fine with taking my time if things are progessing. I just can't tell if they are or ever will.
2007-01-20 07:09:43 · update #1
your enabling her to continue with her screwed up idea of relationships. tell her it's not fair for her to jump from one relationship to another and expect you to be her male comfort. tell her your feeling for her are to strong to assist her in this relationship fiasco she feels she has to do not to get hurt. if she only hangs with loosers what does that make you. just a different type of male looser i guess. think about it. tell her to remove her cranium for her rectum. and find find another door mat to wipe her poor feet on. she wants the jerks for fun. you for security. hmmmm, whats wrong with this picture. take a piece of paper and write down pros on one side of the sheet and cons on the other. the good and the bad about you being with this girl. see which list is longer. i think you'll be surprised. good luck sucker.
2007-01-20 07:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by bizeyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is sleeping in your bed then its most likely she dosnt just want to be friends....
try flirting alot,
she might change her mind and find out that ur a guy to trust....
if she dosnt though you should move on,
but dont just "keep her at a distance"
actually be her friend,
cause if u just throw her away,
your just going to hurt her,
and you will just be another guy on her kist of selfish jerks....
i say keep at it though,
give it some time.....
2007-01-20 15:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by m V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she is the one who said that yall should just be friends than do just that be friends until she says other wise. that would be the best thing to do. she might just say she is willing to sleep with you is because all she wants is a relation and not a relationship. that is what i think she is trying is say.
2007-01-20 15:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylee Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has been hurt n the past, give her time. i've been hurt & i know how it feels. on her wanting to spend the night w/u in ur, i don't know. the way she was hurt was probably losing her virginity, & then the guy leaving. i was hurt that way & other ways.
2007-01-20 15:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by army girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋