We split again after a retry for a few months. It was a 3 year relationship. Loved her to bits but had trouble because she had a kid and it didn't work out. haven't communicated in any way since early Nov - last year.
So - I'm not sure it could ever work out and sure while I miss the hell out of her we won't get together but I just want to send her a card. Just something to say she'll stay the girl of my dreams (and occasional nightmares) for the rest of my life.
The plan is this: Tuesday I fly to Japan, find a valentines card get someone else to write something gooey in it BUT IN JAPANESE and then send it to her from there.
Just to make sure she has something on the 14th of Feb and also so she can't connectit directly to me.
Or should I let sleeping dogs lie?
(not that she's a dog, those of you wanting to go down that route!)
2007-01-20 06:52:13 · 39 answers · asked by charlie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ceces2261 I hope this makes things clearer.
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ahm0ZCsBmxBwkx0zzHOkpFUgBgx.?qid=20061019114201AAdG6DX
2007-01-20 07:02:03 · update #1
I'm going to japan anyway not specially to get a card! :-)
2007-01-20 07:03:44 · update #2
bigclaire - no I don't do that. I was what SHE described as the love of her life. She mine too. please understand.
2007-01-20 07:10:02 · update #3
Do not send her a card. Step away from the card rack. It sounds like doing it in Japanese is a bit of a show off thing. Even if you don't mean it that way, it would come out that way.
A card to her now sends the wrong message. She could see it as 1- a show off on his way to Japan 2-got him on a leash 3-he wants me back 4-stalker profile.
Don't gamble on being taken in any of these wrong ways. Find another girl and move on.
2007-01-20 07:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mature Witch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havent communicated at all since november i wouldnt send a card coz it might mess with her head receiving a card out of the blue?Try texting her to break the ice and see how that goes, if it goes well give her a ring and have a chat about stuff, anything as long as its comfortable for you both.If everythings going well up to this point then id send her a card coz the idea you have is a very nice one with the japanese thing,wish i was that thoughtful!!!! Good luck anyway mate, follow your heart!!!
2007-01-20 07:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by andy s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think your ex is okay with that, and she won't get mad at you or live in hell after it, then yes. Why not? I've become friends with most of my exes, and i would send them a valentines, even though I don't have feelings for any of them anymore. But if you still love her, then yes. THere's no rule that says you can't and there's no rule that states that you cannot love somebody. Because the human mind is incapable of purposely changing what your heart is saying. So if i were you, I'd do it. :D
2007-01-20 06:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by xinfinity.4eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea. I would be highly annoyed if I got a card from someone who wasn't interested in me. In Japanese. On Valentine's Day.
It's nice that you thought of her, but maybe Valentine's Day isn't an appropriate day to show it. Maybe you could send her a card on her Birthday - it's much more neutral.
2007-01-20 07:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Leahlupita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO Absolutely NOT
If she is not the woman for you, let her go.
A Valentine's card means something -- it means you love her. If you aren't going to be together, for whatever reason, don't send confusing messages.
As a woman, I would hate to get to get a card from an ex, anything to imply he still loved me, or that there was a chance. Worse would be an anonymous card. She'll always wonder who sent it.
It would be cruel.
2007-01-20 06:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by suzykew70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure thing ! send her the card but preferably in a language that's understood or she'll probably tear it and think somebody played a prank on her.you can also type it out and write all the good things about her and what an awesome kid she has.at least that will make her smile. you can title it anonymous..as you don't want your name in it. get creative but do something on the 14th for her.
2007-01-20 07:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a nice idea to send your ex-girlfriend a valentine card heck even send the kid one it does not matter were it is being sent from or by who it is the fact that you took the time to send it i see no harm in it at all if she left that much of an impression on you you might want to keep in touch with her for the years to come it just might work out never know sorry to hear the kid factor did not work for you you might want to change your opinion of the kid factor for your future girlfriend(s)
2007-01-20 07:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by ck121013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a funny one !!!!
you love her ,
yet you do not want any commitment .
And you still want her to think well of you !
Oh dear oh dear oh dear ! what can i say to you....
Hmmmmm-----
Go ahead ... send her a Valentines card!
Even heavily disguised , she will know it is from you .!!!
She may imagine, you were growing up ,
and want to restart, your on off relationship with her .
On the other hand ,
she may be glad ,she has seen the back of you .
And has happily moved on .
I had a cute puppy like you once !
>^,,^<
2007-01-20 07:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , don't send a valentine to her . Rather buy a blank card of some kind and write in the card. something like this JUST TO LET YOU KNOW EVEN THOUGH WE COULD NOT MAKE IT TO A MARRIAGE . I STILL VALUE YOUR FRIENDSHIP. and make sure you sign it your friend
2007-01-20 07:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS clean breaks are easier for both parties concerned
don't send her a card and keeps her guessing and putting her hopes high
its not fair on her
and if u have that much feelings for her then
move on with your life and let her move on with hers
2007-01-20 06:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋