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My husband is overseas and I am home alone with our two small children our son is 4 and out daughter is 2 months. I have a cold and I really don't feel good but my children are always needing me for something so I can't just lay down for a nap. I am breastfeeding so I have to be careful what medicines I take. I was wondering how other moms cope with being sick and still running your house by yourself. I don't have anyone to help me, and plus its freezing rain outside so the roads will be slick anyway.

2007-01-20 06:49:22 · 12 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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I know its horrible.. when I was sick with my son, who by the way is my first child ever, my husband had just got deployed when my son was 1 month old. I got sick like two weeks later and it was horrible. I couldn't sleep, i couldn't take any medicine b/c i was nursing him also... I didn't have anyone to come and help me... but you just have to cope. I know its hard and I'm so sorry you have to go through this... i know it is alot harder with two kids. My son is now 18 months and I am pregnant with number two and my husband is going to be deploying some time this year once again... lol.. so I know all the bad things happen when husbands go away. It is always like that. Just take it one day at a time. Ask a neighbor or a friend to come over if they aren't busy for an hour or two so you can lay down... if you can... I'm sorry once again.. and hope you are feeling good soon. Goodluck

2007-01-20 06:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 2 0

I understand exactly how you feel. My husband isn't gone but he is taking night classes so he is around for just a short time each evening. I have a 3 yr old and a 2 month old that is nursing and just spent a week sick while at home all day on maternity leave (with a cranky 3 year old that was getting over being sick). I finally started to turn the corner when I went to 1 day of work earlier this week. I think just being able to sit without having to make meals, do burps, nurse, convince a 3 year old to nap, clean, etc. It's hard and nothing is going to change that. As a good parent you have to be parent first and sick person second. If you have some family or friend that can come babysit while you nap or rest for a couple of hours you will feel much better. Otherwise let as many of the less pressing chores slide for now and try to pile everybody up on your bed to watch cartoons keeping the older kid distracted while you rest. I hope you feel better soon.

2007-01-20 07:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by JordanB 4 · 1 0

I feel your pain.Unfortunately there is not much that I can tell you if you do not have anyone to come and help you.I have been there. All I can suggest is try and get some sleep when they are sleeping.If the 4 year old does not nap try letting him watch a favorite TV show or movie.This will a least afford you some time to sit and relax.Leave what house work that is not a must until you feel better.It will not kill your son to eat a few quick and convenient meals while you are sick. It is only temporary.You will get better soon.Also Call your local Pharmacy or your Dr and ask about what medicines there are that you can take while breast feeding.I know that there are a few but it has been a while and I have forgotten which one they are. Good luck to you and I hope you feel better soon.

2007-01-20 09:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0 0

I was in the exact same situation just a month ago. My husband is in Iraq and I only have one child, so I can only imagine what it's like with two. Sudafed PE worked well when I was breastfeeding. You may want to call your doctor or if you have a nurse line available call them and ask when else you could be doing for some relief. When I was sick I let my son play and watch movies until I felt better. That's just me though. He didn't get away with everything, but I let certain things go. He was only 8 months old, but he could crawl and everything. If you don't have a nurse line here's the number for Fort Riley's nurse line: 785-239-3627. They are open Mon -Fri 7 am to 7 pm and Sat, Sun and fed holidays from 9 am-5 pm and they've taken calls from other military posts before. The number is really for the appointment line, but listen for the Nurse Advice Line option and if you get the voice mail, they do call back. I hope you feel better!

2007-01-20 07:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 0 0

I only had one child and raised him by myself, it is very hard I know! Do you have a friend or family that could just pick them up and take them for an hour or two so you could take a nap? I was very lucky my parents were great about taking my son. We only live 1/4 of a mile and they would call and ask if he could spend the night, we saw them every day and had dinner with them about 4 nights a week. If you could find a friend where you are at and got together a couple times a week even if you are just having mac and cheese. Take turns whose house you are eating at. Make a temporary family until your husband comes back. I am assuming that your on base or close to one. I know that doesn't help you now but maybe next time your not feeling good you will have a back up for a few hours. Good Luck my thoughts and prayers are with your and your family.

2007-01-20 07:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Nani 5 · 1 0

Let the 4 year old watch lots of movies for the next few days (being a couch potato for a few days will not ruin him forever). Call your friends ask for help. Get some formula for the baby, take a good cold medicine then pump and dump for the next couple of days to keep up your supply.

2007-01-20 06:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1 0

Well I dont have an answer for you really.But as a mother I wanted to say i feel for you.I can imagine how hard it is to take care of two little ones alone.Maybe you could express some milk ahead of time and have it on hand, so you could take something for your cold.If they lay down for a nap, try and get you one as well.Good luck to you, and hopefully your husband will be home soon.

2007-01-20 06:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 1 0

Vicodin. But if you're breast feeding, that migh be a bad idea. However that pain reliever will make you feel better, is a cough supressant, and usually puts me in a much better mood. You might have to switch to formula for some type of relief from all this. Even cough syrups have DXM and alcohol in them. DXM being a psychoactive, isn't good for the baby and we all know alcohol isn't. I wish you the best of luck and better health.

2007-01-20 06:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Call anyone that you know to come over and help you. ANYONE! A friend, coworker, neighbor, anyone. It is not possible to take care of kids and be sick at the same time. Trust me, I know this. That is why human mothers were not meant to be left alone, in the sense of evolution. Get someone to help you! :)

2007-01-20 06:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by snowangel_az 4 · 2 0

it is hard, but unfortunately short of calling you mother or a good friend, you just have to tough it out!! i know the feeling though. It seems when you're sick your children don't wanna watch tv, don't wanna take a nap, or do anything by themselves! just try to tough it out!!!! you'll feel better eventually!

2007-01-20 07:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 1 0

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