I am dating the most amazing and beautiful girl in the world, we are very much in love and have a wonderful time together, but recently I've been struggling and I need to hear from people who know. Basically things are great except sometimes when for a minor reason she will become very very unpleasant, she will get angry, yell and say some really hurtful stuff, the kind where the knife goes deep. Now afterwards 9/10 she will apologise and say she is sorry and she didnt mean things, but I never forget what was said, mainly because it hurts so much. Also she has had a difficult past and says Im the first man she truly loved, and that she wants to be with me until we are old and grey, and I want that too, but these moods just seem to happen sometimes, and its nothing I've caused but I bear the brunt of it. Im the best guy I can be, I do all the loving things I can, Im always there for her and always want 2 be, but its killing me inside. Her past haunts me as I love her so much, any ideas?
2007-01-20 06:45:10 · 4 answers · asked by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be that your love has been so affected byher past that she doesn't believe that this good thing between the two of you will last. Unconsciously, she may be trying to sabotage the situation to prove her deep seated feeling to be true. If you really love her, try to get her to open up about the real reason why she lashes out at you. Also reassure her that you have no intentions of leaving her.
I went through similar things in my past relationships. However, through counseling and lots of honest self reflection, I've begun to make a change in my life for the better. My relationships are healthier, and I can let people know about the things in my past that have hurt me and still affect me.
Open communication is the best way to help her. When she goes off, try not to let it affect you negatively. Just remind her that you love her and that you would be there with her if you didn't want her and only her. She will appreciate the sentiment, even if she doesn't acknowledge it. It will be a tough position for you to place yourself in, but real love requires sacrifice and hard choices.
2007-01-20 06:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know because your a boy you wouldn't want to hear this but girls have hormornal problems every month it is to do with their period. When they are on their month for their period they get moody and are really distressed, emotional or moody. Obviously your girlfriend is moody from the period. You should still stay with her because she obviously loves you very much. Don't dump her however much she hurts you. If you can't bear it then when the moody month is over explain that the things she says are really hurtful and you don't want to break up with her. Explain it nicely and calmly and don't get annoying or moody. If she starts having a go at you and you feel like shouting take a deep breathe and explain that you don't want to have a arguement you just want to have a open discussion. She will understand. Good luck
2007-01-20 06:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Holz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, Well i think that its not exactly the way you are saying. If she reacts like you say in some situations when she gets angry, then probably you have done something that she disliked a lot and still bothers her., and i think that it is one of reasons why she nowdays reacts like that and says bad things that hurt you a lot. You say that you are the best guy, but what does she think about it?
2007-01-20 07:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tanja A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, it is not of your fault try as you can not to upset her or make her angry. You should explain her your feelings and fears and advise her to control her anger and her words. If she loves you as you said she will understand. Good luck!!!
2007-01-20 06:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋