My own time...?

Question

I live with my mom,my father being away from home almost 11 months a year,which means I am the person who does it all in the house,absolutely all....It`s just that sometimes I feel I don`t a place of my own,I don`t have my own time....My mom relies enormously on me,but I would really like to have a lot more time for myself,for study,for having fun....no....everything can be interrupted at any moment,and sometimes it drives me nuts....nobody seems to feel I really don`t have much time saved for me and me only....How would you do to talk with your parents if you were in my place?how would you handle this situation?Thanks and have a great week-end!

Answer 1

Well, it seems that since she does not have a husband anymore, she is putting all her attention into you, and just venting all her frustrations on you. I would tell her that some people just arent meant to be together, and it is ok for her to move on. Tell how you have felt about all of this, and about doing all the chores. You need to live you life- your mom cannot prevent you from being happy if she is not. Tell her you love her so she knows that someone cares.

Answer 2

You need to tell your mother that your grades are falling behind because you have no time to study, and tell her you are losing your friends because you don't have any time to hang out with them. She's the mother, she need to take care of YOU. It should NOT be the other way around. You need to sit your mother down and talk to her. You also need to communicate with your father somehow, maybe he could help in some way. I'm sorry you are living like this. If the younger siblings need a diaprer-change, then do it and get back to studying, Most parents can't say no to school-work.
As for the "alone time" sit on your bed, close your eyes and pay attention to only your breathing (this is meditation). Go as deep inside yourself as you can, and when little Bobby or Susie asks you to play with them, if you can go deep enough, you can ignore them. When your mother needs you, slowly open your eyes and come back to the real world. I've done this. It works quite well. You just need to find your "happy-place".
Me hopes me helped =)

Answer 3

I have walked and continue to walk in your shoes. I would suggest that you connect with your Dad and let him know that you can no longer babysit your Mom (his wife) and that you need a place of your own where you can have privacy. At a minimum, he should agree to pay to have a housekeeper come in to help your Mom so that you can begin to enjoy life. You should not be expected to give up your life and schooling for a parent.

In my own case, I find that the more I do, the less Mom does ...this doesn't create a happy home, but rather a situation where I am resentful that I am the one who has to do everything.

It is a tough spot to be in. I wish you lots of luck.

Answer 4

I'd def. talk with them as well. Try offering to stick witth 2-3 chores a week that u know they need help with and then explain that you need your own space and time. Maybe have rule that when your door is shut, that means you need time alone. I am in the same situation with my folks and it just got to this boiling point where I had to tell them to back off and I explained how I felt and they were pretty decent about it. Now I can just say, 'hey I need some time to myself,' and they give that to me. Hopefully yours will also be able to respect this. Good Luck and be strong.

Answer 5

Sit down with your mother and explain to her that u know how much she needs you but that you really need a break and would like a bit of free time to spend with your friends or just to relax... she'll have to understand that you cant spend all day every day in the house doing chores! I'm sure everything will work out so just build up the courage to speak to her about it..

Answer 6

Let your mom read your question"My own time".It is clear enough to make your mom thinking and decide about both of you.good luck

Answer 7

i don't know how old you are so i can't give you a decent answer.