i have this crush on a guy but i don't know how to tell him...
i think that he likes me but im still not sure...
we always talk online and comment eachother and such
i feel so comfortable and warm when i talk to him...
i really like him but im so confused. he's nice, smart, funny, kinda cute...asian...
should i tell him or not??? if i do, will he hate me???
i need some advise on how to tell him that i like him, what is the reaction he will most likey have and just some encouragement...
NO CRAPPY ANSWERS PLEASE!!! im serious about recieving the right answers...
2007-01-20 06:40:47 · 20 answers · asked by girlx7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! I had every detail of your problem (even the Asian) last year. As it turned out, I fell out of love after crushing on him for almost a year and thats when he became crazy about me...literally obsessive (called me at 3 to say he cant stop thinking about me on many occasions). He asked me out and I said yes and he dumped me four months later...on CHRISTMAS.
Having a crush is fun, isn't it? But don't let him take over your life. If you NEED to be near him (I know how that feels) call him just to chat...don't stalk him or that will freak him out. Show him what a fun, loving, caring person you are, and it won't hurt to get in better shape and look a little nicer. But don't overdo it. The prettier you feel, the more confident you will be and the more confident you are, the more comfortable you will appear around him. Nice guys like it when girls feel comfortable around them. Don't be intimidating or overemotional....you might think this will impress him but it NEVER does. Joke around with him like he's one of your friends....and become one of his close friends. Bake cupcakes or cookies and bring them to school/his house on his birthday...most guys LOVE girl's baked goods and he'll love you for taking the time to do it. Be a great friend to him and he will probably go chasing after you!! But not if you call him TOO frequently.
If you can't wait for him to ask and you feel so strongly about him, then go ahead and ask him, but this is risky because the result is usually all or nothing. Either he will be thrilled you feel that way and he feels the same too, or he'll be freaked out and that will make your friendship awkward.
I know it's hard, but try to stick around as his friend a little longer, just be a little more of a friend, invite him to movies and to study with and such. Show that you are interested in him, and if he doesn't respond, stop calling him. Continue to be nice, but also be friendly with other guys. Who knows? He might find out just how much he misses you!
Best of luck!
2007-01-20 06:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by susie q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that talking with someone online is very different than talking face to face. Using a messenger is always easier to express yourself, but when you meet him elsewhere you will feel strange.
As for telling him you like him or not, I would suggest to leave him to make the first step.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 06:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, now from what I got, he seems to have interest in you as well. We (as in guys) are intimidated, however, about girls who come on too strong, but there is a way. You have to know your interested and you like him, but in a shy way (we love that). Tell him how you feel when your with him, but let him ask the question. It may take a few tries (we dont pick up hints very well), but if he is the way you wrote, he'll come around.
2007-01-20 06:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him because if he is nice inside and does not want to go out then he would still stay friends. And maybe he feels the same. But tell him in person not over sms or phone call.... that's just dumb. Good-luck (",)
2007-01-20 06:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... that's a tuffy..... many people have been in those situations..... umm.... there is always the risk of when you tell him it might get awkward due to him feeling uncomfortable because he might not want to take the next step....
a good way to find out is to either ask one of his friends... or... go straight to him about it.... show some guts and ask him.. like... where do you think we stand.... u know???
if that doesn't work..... like go to the beach or something and tell him there.... some place like romantic... not the i want to mary you romantic, but the i think ur hot, and i like you romantic....
hope that helps.... just go to him about it.... shows ambition and that you are willing to take the risks to make the relationship work.
good luck
2007-01-20 06:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by jordanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hunny dont get all upset if hes really that important you better tell him guys are almost just as shy as sum girls and maybe he wont like you but life is to short for whut if's or maybe's you have to take the risk and tell him how you feel you might be surprised on his answer he might feel just as strongly just didnt know how to tell you
good luck
2007-01-20 06:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ambelry A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if he doesn't like you the worst could get is just he wont talk to you as much as often. Well if you love someone no point of hiding. Still can't accept it? Well if that guy doesn't need your love, you could say to yourself **** it. And give your love to someone that appreciate you.
2007-01-20 06:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me is in the same situasion...ryt dwn 2 da fact da ma guys asian 2..lol..newyz..jus go 4 it..pik a tym whn hes not with his m8z etc..id advise u not ta do it online..do it face 2 face..n do it asap..you'll be happier..if your pretty sure he likes you then theres nothin 2 worry about...if your not..get some help from your friends..my m8z alwaiiz tell me if a guy likes me..and if you do ask him..he wont hate you..unless hes heartless (what hes not lol)..jus GO FOR IT GURRL...good luck
2007-01-20 06:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by bad to the bone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing about guys is that, if the guy doesn't like you back and you tell him that you like him, suddenly he'll get this ego boost because you put the ball in his court. he won't hate you or anything though but if he'll probably tell his friends and it'll be awkward...if you're not sure whether he likes you or not, don't tell him that you like him because i've known girls who have told guys because the guys acted as if they liked the girls back, when really the guy is just nice to every girl and didn't like that specific girl. another thing is, when you talk online with him, do you always IM him? or does he IM you. if you are always the one messaging him, then he probably doesn't like you and just feels the obligation to talk.
if you really do want to tell him though because u're absolutely sure he'd like you back but you are too afraid to actually say "i like you," say something like "hey do you like me?" and then if he pauses and looks like he's going to say no then say "oh i mean like me as a friend, because i always got this vibe from the beginning like you didn't enjoy my company." you could hint that you like him by saying stuff like "i really enjoy talking to you" or "i like your company" or such
2007-01-20 06:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Luciya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you shouldn't just tell him that you like him out of the blue. First, give actions that mean that you love him...like hugs and kisses on cheeks. Do you guys go out? after like a really fun day, it doesn't even have to be a date, just be like i had a lot of fun with you...and kiss him on the cheek.
2007-01-20 06:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋