So, I am going out with this guy that I liked at the beginning of the school year. Now I don't like him anymore and I really like this guy that I've liked for a really long time and he just told my friend that he likes me. I want to go out with the other guy, but I don't want my boyfriend to think I'm dumping him for another guy. We all go to the same, small school and everyone would think I'm some brat if I do that. I need some advice!!
2007-01-20 06:38:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First let me tell you an important fact of life regardless of how old you are...No one can ever control what others think about them or their actions. You can only control how you react to others opinions about you. With that said the best advice I can offer you is to be completely honest with both guys...you're young its understandable that you may like, be attracted to more than one guy at a time..To the guy you started out the school year with simply tell him ,( sincerely ) that you still think he's a great guy but your feelings have changed in the romance dept...you'll find the right words...when you talk to him , speak to him as you would want To be spoken to if the tables were turned. Then after a few days or so, ( you'll be able to tell when the time is right ) let the other guy know you're interested in getting to know him better....Be honest and sensitive in your delivery and you may just find yourself giving advice down the road to some of your peers . who by word of mouth heard that you are a kind, caring person. Best wishes...to you.
2007-01-20 06:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you are not committed to the first guy..you seem willing to cheat on him so do it right.
Break up with the first guy then ask the second guy out. You are going to get a bad reputation as a Ho if you simply go out with two guys at the same time.
A small school has a big mouth..everyone will know your business and you will end up loosing them both.
2007-01-20 06:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dumping this guy? When you break up with him, make it clear the reason why you don't want him anymore. There's no reason why you should be unhappy, and he will be unhappy too once your bad feelings for him starts to show.
And don't worry about what others will say about you. It's none of their business rather you stay with him or you leave him and start going with someone else. They can't make your relationship with your current b.f any better than it is, and even if they could this relationship has nothing to do with them. Face it: people are going to talk. You just have to be able to deal with it and let them say whatever. It shouldn't change whatever it is you decide to do. Make sure you have a plan and stick with it no matter what the masses say.
2007-01-20 06:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it seems that you not only like the other guy, but you also just flat out don't like your bf, break up. Simply tell him y'all aren't right for each other anymore. && then WAIT... at least a month! If the guy you like asks you out before a couple of weeks, tell him you aren't ready for another relationship yet, but you really do like him. This way it'll let other people know that you did care about that relationship. Just make sure "wanna-be bf" knows that you DO like and WANT to go out with him after a while.
Good luck (((by the way people don't think as much about your dating life as you may think!)))
2007-01-20 06:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, if you dump your boyfriend and go out with another guy immediately, your boyfriend will feel terrible, after all, think of how you would feel if he did that to you when you still liked him. my suggestion would be, that if you end up your current boyfriend, you should probably wait awhile before dating this new guy. it'll give you some time to explore your options, decide if you're really sure that you like this new fling or if you'd rather stay with the old one. it's your decision in the end, but you have to remember that even though they're guys, they both have feelings. treat that with respect.
2007-01-20 06:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by amberlynnr7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, do not worry to much about what other people think of you, since life is too short to sell your happiness for the sake of some image. You obviously no longer want to be with your boyfriend so just end it and go for the guy you like in a subtle way, you do not have to flaunt it in your ex-boyfriend's face, but guys do this all the time, switch from one girl to the next. so why shouldn't we?
2007-01-20 06:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is i think ur a brat too!! ur bf probably really likes u and if u broke up with him the chances are hes going to cry(really guys do that) hes going to pretend he was happy and say he was going to break up with u first so u look like a fool or hes going to hate ur guts and be a jerk the rest of his life thanks to u lots of peoples lifes will be ruined
2007-01-20 06:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just calmly talk to your boyfriend, and tell him that you just dont have too many feelings for him anymore. Tell him that you like him as a friend and think he is a great guy, but you just have your heart set on someone else.
2007-01-20 06:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by chris_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can cheat on him witch is the worst thing to do but just saying or...dump him wait a few days and flirt with the other guy then go out with him
2007-01-20 06:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by cibel4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta follow your heart on this one. If you are not happy in a relationship then why bother continuing?
Its not only unfair to you but the one you are with as well.
Dont allow others to influence your decisions when it comes to matters of the heart.
Plain and simple, believe in yourself and follow your heart.........the rest is just details.
2007-01-20 06:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.KnowNothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋