Me and my mom got in to a huge fight. I think she wants me and my sister to hate my dad because I feel like I'm not allowed to care for him at all. My older sister had bought a box of chocolates in Paris and brought them for my dad. Later that day, my mom was taking the chocolates to her room and I had told her that the chocolates were for my dad. She yelled at me saying that they were for her and 'us'. Then she said how I was just on the side of my dad and that I was feeling bad for him even if he didn't deserve it. I knew she was going to hate me if I ever cared for him, so I told her, "NO! -name- said it was for him (My older sister)" and then she didn't believe me so I told her that I was going to call her up and ask her who they were for. My mom told me, "I DON'T GIVE A ****!" and then she ran up to me and hit me. The fight got worse and I felt horrible. Then I finally called my older sister and she told my mom that the chocolates were for him, and then mymomdidntcare.
2007-01-20 06:38:44 · 11 answers · asked by omgluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom and dad have had problems with each other since they got married. They have not divorced.
2007-01-20 07:10:26 · update #1
??????? ummmmmmm what is wrong with ur dad did he like cheat on her or something cause (no offense) ur mom sounds like she has a mental problem and not in a joking but a serious way.....she went bezerk over u giving ur dad a box of choclates
2007-01-20 06:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anna I know exactly what your feeling, I have been through a very similar situation with my oldest daughter. Her father and I split up when she was only 4, I had tried every thing in my power to make things work for the kids sake, but it just wasn't happening, and throughout the years I guess they somewhat resented me for not being with thier dad, so I appear to have been the one for causing the fact that were not a "family" I have never deprived either of them from being together, but I guess when they would go for the weekend with dad, he would literally buy thier love so naturally I always came across as the big ***** with my rules and morals, if you want something, they would have to earn it, I wanted to teach them values, but in time they grew to understand my reasons. after all those years of them despising me, there was never a single moment that I could ever hate them, I have 2 daughters as well, and regardless I never stood in the way of the relationship they have with dad, personally that is just wrong to tell another how to feel about someone, I think your mom is totally immature as well as selfish and probalby jealous! she had absolutely no right to hit you! she best wake up and get a grip on reality! does she by any chance use drugs or drink? sorry for rambling on but when I came across your question it just brought back so many years of mixed emotions, but if I was in the neighborhood, I would definitly have a talk with mommy dearest, you guys keep touch with your dad, as long as your dad wants to be involved in your life no one can tell you otherwise, tell mom to seek counseling of some kind!
2007-01-20 15:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom and dad are having problums.There comes a time in our lives that we have to realize that our mothers are also wifes and ,and it sounds as though her husband may have hurt her. Give her space and time and a little bit of understanding.Maybe try to talk to her as a women, not a mother. I'm sure your mom loves you very much.
2007-01-20 14:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that your parents are divorced or seperated. If that the case then! Yes, she might have been hurt but she shouldn't have acted that way! You have the right to love your father no matter what! She can hate him too but should keep that to herself! It is very hard beening in the middle and see a parent act that way! Maybe tell her that you love them both and would like it if she kept her feelings to herself! Good Luck!
2007-01-20 14:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear anna ; family fights are normal to some extents, just think that ur mom is just a human being with all her ups & downs ,good & bad manners , she can make a mistake ,may b that day she wasnt on the good mood she just wanet to find fault with u girls ,be positive & know the only people in the world who care about u without any expectations are parents ! good luck
2007-01-20 14:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by gelareh p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents divorced? If they are, it sounds like your mother is a resentful hag who needs to grow up and get a life.
Divorce can bring out the worst in people, and parents who expect their children to take sides doesn't help.
Your mom doesn't hate you....she just has issues.
2007-01-20 14:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you poor thing. Your mom is completely wrong for acting this way. She doesn't hate you, she is just not in control of herself and is feeling very defensive. Try to not provoke her, let her work on her issues. But really know this, her issues are not your fault, they are hers. Its ok to love your dad, that is normal even if she doesn't. She is really being unfair. Walk softly, this will pass. And she shouldn't have hit you.
2007-01-20 14:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom has a problem with your dad for some reason and she wants you and your sister to only care about her and only her and to heck with your dad.she made it clear that she don't give a **** about anyone of you,so in return treat her the sameway she has been treating you and see how she feels then. just remember she isn't happy unless she can start a fight over things like candy,so she wants to act like a child then treat her like one.
2007-01-20 14:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she does not hate you,but she is furious.Your sister should have bought another chocolate for her."Share the chocolate among family." It is better to have a bit than nothing at all.
2007-01-20 14:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by batu5001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is your mom in a fight with your dad or are they getting a divorce??
you have to understand that all families have problems eother big or small.
how old is your mom?? she might be going through menopause. thats what happened to me and my mom ... i know how you feel
2007-01-20 14:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋