Am I too young?

Question

I am only sixteen years old. I have found my soulmate for life. I love him so much. He is almost eighteen now, and he proposed to me two days ago. I love him so much and I want to be with him forever, so I said yes. Do you think I am too young to get married?

I am graduating two years early. We are the same graduating year. We both have jobs and I already have a scholarship to college. I don't know how to tell my parents.

We both have our lives planned out. Plus, my parents know now. They said yes. And next week they are going to sign the papers. Me and him are getting married in a year from now.

Answer 1

i think it all depends on how mature you are. if you truly feel that you are ready for this lifetime commitment then i say you go girl. but, if you are having any doubts or you are going back and forth between should i or shouldnt i, then i say you should wait a couple years. sit down and really think if it is love you are really feeling. think about how long a lifetime really is. think that you will be with the same man until the end. is he in your thoughts day and night? do you feel like crying with happiness whenever you think of him or you are near him? if that is all true and you can smile after thinking about all this then i say your love is for real. love is the greatest feeling in the world. good luck to you and congratulations on your engagement. may you both be trully happy for many years to come. my last word are, go with your heart. what does your heart tell you? just so you know, my parents got married when my mother was 16 and my father was 18. they got married because they were in love not cause they had to. i came to this world 4 years later. they are still together and as happy with each other as ever.

Answer 2

Congratulations. It sounds like you are very smart (graduating early, getting a scholarship). It also sounds like you are very lucky. I think if you have your parent's blessings, then he is probably a pretty good guy.

I would say with all that in mind, then getting married should be fine. I would make one suggestion though, and that is to not have kids right away.

Give your marriage some time. You guys will have the luxury of time that many newlyweds don't. A lot of couples are faced with the choice of enjoying their marriage together and putting kids off until a time when they've experienced life, this, however, makes it so that by the time they have kids, they are older and their bodies won't bounce back as quick, they will be farther apart...

The other choice they have it to get pregnant right away and they don't get the chance to enjoy marriage together.

You guys can have it both. Be married for 5 - 10 years, then talk about kids. This way you have a solid foundation as well as the fact that you are still young.

Congrats and good luck.

Answer 3

Yea your too young. Like 90% of young couples divorce within 2 to 5 years. Look to the celebrities for this one. what celeb do you know that married young and is still with the same guy.
my advice would be to wait until your 24 or older before marrying anyone. That way if it turns out he wasn't Mr. Right you won't have to go through a divorce just a break-up scene. Oh and I would wait until I was 18 then move in with him. If he irritates you while you live together then you know it won't work if you are married.

Answer 4

I was in this position 10 years ago--I was with my boyfriend for two years & we were perfect for each other (so it seemed). I was completely and utterly in love with him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. He proposed and I said yes--we planned on getting married after I graduated from high school. I planned on going away to college and he would follow wherever I went.

The more time passed the more I realized that I wanted bigger and better things and he just wanted to stay home and comfortable. We began to bicker and broke up. Ten years later I'm still unmarried and very thankful for it--I have a BA, MA, and a great job. Had I been married at 18 there is no way I would have accomplished all that I have done or travelled to the places I've been (in the last month alone I went to Hawaii & Belize!).

BUT...my older sister is married to her high school sweetheart who she met when she was 16 (she's 30 now). They've had their ups & downs, but they are still going strong.

My best advice is to make it a long engagement & see where the years take you. You will be a much different person at 16 than who you are at 20, 25, etc. If the two of you can grow & change together it can work, but it is pretty likely that you won't and that's just a part of life and growing up. Trust me, if it does not work out you will have plenty of love in your life. :) If it does, you have a wonderful story to tell your children! (don't get pregnant anytime soon!!) Good luck!

Answer 5

I don't think you're too young. Mainly because I think I may have found my soulmate and I'm also 16. My boyfriend is 18 and well... Back to you. Go ahead and say yes, but my advise is to wait until you're 18. That way it'll give you some time to think about it and (if) he isn't the one you want you'll hopefully realize it before then. If you end up getting married now, you may end up regretting it. So just say yes and remember saying yes and being engaged isn't a for sure thing. You can still back out. But I hope you don't have to.... Good Luck!

Answer 6

Here's the deal.... When I was sixteen I "found the love of my life" as well. He was a freshmen in college and he loved me too yadda yadda yadda. But within a year he was no longer the love of my life. Not because he did anything wrong or stopped loving me. But because I changed. You grow and change so much in your teenage years and to say you'll stay the same is selling yourself short. Growth is good..in fact it is wonderful. We parted ways and still bump into each other every once in a while. And we both have had multiple loves since then. Hopefully this guy is someone you can grow with. If he is then he will stick around and after a few years go ahead marry and have a blast. If you two grow apart...trust me you'll be happy you didn't marry right away.

Answer 7

I think it's great you found your soulmate. Im in the same sort of situation as you, I'm 16 (my boyfriend is 18) and I know I've found my soulmate. But as for marriage, I think 16 is too young. My boyfriend and I have talked about it, but haven't decided to commit to something so serious until we both know we're old enough. Plus, live your life a little bit first. Settling down while you're still a teenager? I'd wait.

Answer 8

Yes you're too young!
I can't tell you how many times I had those same feelings befroe i was 24 even... geeze... lots of times - lots!
And it's all because of your age and lack of exposure in life, that's all. Don't get hoodwinked at your age... keep a steady mind and look forward to gaining valuable experiences in life!
I know you don't like hearing this, but I swear, I swear, I swear... it's true!!!!!
And, (check it out), if you two are TRULY! meant for each other, wait until "you" are 21 to set the marriage date and we'll see how long that lasts because if it's truly meant to be, there shouldn't be any problems until then, right?

Answer 9

I was pregnant at 16 and got married so I would not have to raise the baby alone. That was the worst thing I could have done. You need to make sure you really love him first and at 16 you can have strong feelings but give it a few years of dating and make sure it is what you really want. Don't rush into anything you are still young.

Answer 10

Yes you are too young!!! You can be engaged for a couple of years and see if you still feel that way in the future. I think that younger than 21 is too young, but that is just my opinion.