I will make this a short as possible...I have a guy friend we have been friends since highscool. We worked together for 3yrs and we dated for a while. He is a great guy but I am not really physically attracted to him so we stopped dating but still remained friends. I never cared who he dated until I found out he was dating a mutual friend of ours. Me and her are no longer friends (not over him) but now he wants to be in a relationship with me. I already told him no because of her but he won't let up. I feel kinda pressured to give him a chance cause he is a great fun person to be around but when i think of how he dated her knowing we were friends it turns me all the way off. what can I tell him or what can i do...I mean they had sex and everything??
2007-01-20 06:28:35 · 4 answers · asked by JAY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect you for the fact that you told him no even though you two are no longer friends. But don't let him pressure you into talking to him. If you weren't physically attracted to him then, now you won't be either. However, it's not always about looks. I think you still like him because of his personality, and it's okay. I mean yes you two are no longer friends and he does want you back, and you did have him first, so that really doesn't matter if you take him back or not. If you aren't going to be able to get over them having sex, then you might not want to take him back. Just take some time and think about it.
2007-01-20 06:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ... do you want him as a friend?
Then don't let it go farther than friendship. Sex only troubles friendship, and in the majority of cases ... destroys it.
As a friend you can laugh & joke, have fun. However once intimate, friends can't be so fun in nature. Feelings get hurt eventually, and when you break up it can break OFF anything you ever had before the relationship. You KNOW things PERSONALLY about that person now, and you dislike some or all of their personal characteristics at that point. And then you don't want a friend in someone you've been so close to and know so very much about, especially the things you grow to dislike about them in a closer relationship.
So, it all ends up in your court, you make the choice. But remember you can have a relationship, but if you are doing so out of PITY? You will grow to hate his personal characteristics even more than before, and a pity relationship never lasts.
2007-01-20 14:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can kinda tell you contimplate having a relationship because you do care for him and thats not going to change there is a HUGE history there.... on the other hand knowing what he did with your friends is hard to get over and you have to tell him that jus let him know that you dont see you to together because 1 i stopped seeing you that way i say you as more of a friend than lover and 2 i cant get past you sleeping with her if he truly cares he will understand dont feel presured into dating someone good luck
2007-01-20 14:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ambelry A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were not physically attracted to him anyway. So why are you considering dating him again?
2007-01-20 14:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋