my son and the baby blues of MAYBE waiting another one?

Question

my son will be turning one years old feb 3rd..I am so sad!!!! I, also have an 8 yr old daughter..I am starting to want another baby but i know...i can not handle two youngs kids at the same time ..that is why my kids have such a age gap and i love it. How old are your kids and did you feel likt this when they turned one years old? What are my chances of having a girl if i decided to have another one which would not be until my son was, at least 4 or 5 years old..???.

that's my son in the avator picture

Answer 1

Two young'uns at the same time is really hard and stressful. It's okay to get help if you can't pull out of it. Lots of people do and it's the folks who help themselves that are the strongest. Enjoy the little one you have. It's my own opinion that 3 yrs is a good age difference. Not too much but still enough such that the 3 y.o. can be slightly more independent (potty trained, feeds self, maybe even dresses self, plays for a while alone etc...)
I can totally associate with how you feel now that my "baby" is just past one year old.

Answer 2

some days I wish I had more than 2 and others I am relieved that I only have 2 ....my sons are 2 and 4 and I feel the same way you do with my second little one....I dont want him to grow up either cuz I am not having any more and it makes me sad to think he is my last....but I know that I have my plate full with just two. ....I dont know how other people have the patients for more than two....if I could afford a live in nanny etc then I would of had more but I am at my wits end most of the time.....and the chance of having a girl or boy is fifty fifty lol
If you have the patients and money to have more I say go for it but if not then I know you will be happy with just two

Answer 3

I am no parent, and according to my own parents I'm not even old enough to have children without them having to kill me first (lol, that part was sarcasim).
Anyway! I don't think you should feel bad for wanting another child. When my puppy (my baby) was 1 year old I wanted another doggie, but I couldn't, mommy wouldn't let me.
When I plan on having children (when I'm married at least), I plan on spacing them far apart, this is unless I change my mind and think I can handle it.
I think you should wait another year or so until your little son is at least three. That way, it would be less stressful for you and he'll be able to understand what's going on better. A family I know didn't have their third child til their second child was 9!! I was strongly believe that the third child was an "accident" if you catch my drift..
Anyway, congratulations! Tell yer little son that a girl he doesn't know wishes him a happy birthday!! 1 year!!! WOW!!!!
Me hopes me helped. =)

Answer 4

Well i grew up in a family where there was always one or two little tykes (if not three) running around, but the older kids helped take care of the young ones and it seemed to work out fine. But then again i grew up that way and its normal for me. And i also plan on being the same way when i get married. there aint nothing better than having many kids, you learn so much from them, even things you would never have thought you would learn from a child of all things. Best of luck to you and what you decide!

Answer 5

My son turned 3 in November. I cried, I don't want him to grow up.

I really wanted to have a second, but for health reasons, i had to wait. Last week I found out I was expecting so they'll be almost exactly 4 years apart. That's okay, it's how far my sis and I are apart.

Hey at least I won't have 2 in diapers.

Answer 6

Your depression will not get better by getting pregnant and having another baby. You need to take care of yourself and consider therapy. Andrea Yates was advised NOT to have another child, and she did anyway............look what can happen when the "baby blues" go untreated. Take care of yourself and the children you have now, and if you recover from your depression then, and only then, you can consider another child.