Im 17 and my parents basically wish me dead.
My dad is always instigating fights with me. Its like he has nothing else to do but to make me seem like such a bad kid. Usually our fights consist of him telling me all my faults and me telling him to leave me alone. But if i tell him anything my mom joins in and starts yellng at me calling me disrespectful.
My dad always yells at me for no reason saying how im so rebelious and im a hateful little b*tch or a c*nt, and you know.. just everything. he makes fun of my weight and to top it all off he and my mom think im a greedy little brat. I am supposed to get ss checks, but i dont get any of the money. and i stil have to use the money i make at work to pay them for stuff when my ss is supposed to do that. my dad yelled at me the other night when i said i was leaving because he upset me. he said Good maybe you'll come home in a body bag or on the side of the road you little *****. and i have him on tape tellng me he wishes i wanst born.
2007-01-20 06:09:45 · 11 answers · asked by MissJennyNicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i didnt have enough space to write that i have talked to my boyfriends mom about it... she cried when i told her.
my boyfriend is 22. my parents used to love love love him. but now they act differently towards him.
i am concerned that if i go to police or something, that they'll say something about my boyfriend and he'll get taken to jail or something because of his age.
and, im scared that if i tell someone, that they wont be able to do anything and that would make everything worse.
im really confused about it all
2007-01-20 06:22:17 · update #1
Yes, absolutely emotional and verbal abuse. You need to speak to a guidance counselor and seek help quick. There is also something you can do to divorce your parents. It's called immancipation. You are old enough to do it, but make sure by checking with your local social services office.
Talk to a social worker about what is going on. They may can find you a safe haven until you get things straightened out. After you have contacted the state regarding that part, then contact the local Social Security Ofifce regarding your social security checks, go to your local office and talk to the person in charge of your file. Social security has strict guidelines as to how the money you get every month is to be used for, i.e. clothing, school supplies, toilietries, or anything that is related to you. If your parents are abusing the use of your check they can get in a heap of trouble.
Explain to social security what is going on and see if they can put it in your name and have it mailed to you at a post office box, away from where you parents can get it. You need to also check at what age they can switch it into your name. I would get immancipated first before dealing with the SSI people. It could make your case stronger if they know that you are not legally bound to your parents.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-20 06:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is emotional abuse. It is also the number one reason so many kids are out on the streets doing the things they are because of parents that are self centered and treat kids like second class citizens. Your old enough to talk to a councilor or teacher, clergy or a friends parent about the way you are being talked to and treated in your home. You can emancipate yourself from your parents if this kind of treatment continues. I'd check into other alternatives and remove myself from this harassment as soon as possible. Don't let any one verbally abuse you, your a human being and deserve to be treated as such. Good luck
2007-01-20 06:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but if you are over 18, get out and take your checks with you (don't know why you are getting ss).
It is emotional abuse. Go to the social security office and have your checks changed to only your name and get a post office box so your mail does not go to your parents home. Perhaps your boyfriend's mother could let you stay there for a little while until you can get a place of your own.
What type of employment does your parents have? It could be that your check is the main source of income for the family and your father and mother are resentful of that.
Get out of there!
2007-01-20 06:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart no my or dad should ever say anting to a child like that! I know it can really bring you down! Are you good at writting? if you are ever day write in a journal or even right a letter to your dad and set it somewhere that he can read it latter! Make sure he is in a good mood 1st! Don't ever let them say get to you so bad that you would want to hurt yourself, if you find your-self feeling that way go to a friend, walk to a place there is help! talk to someone at school(if you go) just don't act on the feeling! Life get hard and people are mean but you just gotta keep you head up! I will pray for you and I hope things get better!
2007-01-20 06:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by baby_mamma123456789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you parents are abusing you. I am assuming when you say s checks you mean . SSI checks . When my husband died social
security sent me checks for my kids auntil they turned 16. once they turned 16 the checks were sent to the kids.
You should go to a school counsilor and social services and tell them exactly as you typed it here. they will find a foster home for you.
My opinion from what you typed is you should be looking for a different place to live any way because once you turn 18 you will lose ssi and then they will kick you out any how
2007-01-20 06:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call the cops it is child abuse, they can go to jail or get a criminal record, for your ss check you can get direct deposit into your bank acct mail them your details and that will fix that , dont worry about your boyfriend, he wont getin any trouble cause they have to prove you've had sex if you dont admit and he dosent and your not pregnant dont worry about it. You need to get out of that situation quick it can be emtionally damaging and they need to know that they cannot treat you like that or anyone like that they need help. You can also have thier parental rights terminated and they will both have to pay you child support until you are 18 or out of school
2007-01-20 08:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by siobhan_michele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is abuse-you need to GO to your social service dept or police department. You in NO WAY deserve that treatment. You can refuse to go back there and they will find you a place to stay while things are straighten out, wether it be counseling whatever. Being in a foster home isnt as bad as some make it out to be:)
2007-01-20 06:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can call your social security office and ask them to send the checks in YOUR name only. I believe that because you are over 16 you can do this. Talk to them and do talk to a counselor or a person at the state office.
2007-01-20 06:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by beccam1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's verbal and emotional abuse. you need to tell someone what is going on and turn them both in for not using the ss checks for you that's money is supposed to be for your needs.
2007-01-20 06:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by honeybear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely emotional abuse. See your school counselor because your family needs intervention.
2007-01-20 06:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋