I'm getting married later this year and it's not my first wedding BUT it will be my first wedding gown. To save cost I'm buying a beautiful used gown but it's white with white embroidery and white and silver beading. My dilema is that traditionally you only wear white the first time you get married. I thought about trying to get it dyed a pale color but then the beading may all have to be removed. I've also thought about trying to restitch the embroidery in black (our colors are black, white and silver), but not sure how well that would look. Do you think the guests would really frown if I left it white? Any suggestions? This is a very expensive gown that I'm able to purchase at a very good price and I hate to pass it up simply because tradition says I'm not supposed to wear white.
2007-01-20 06:09:26 · 29 answers · asked by cookiefactory4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Marriage is traditional. How you choose to do it, should not necessarily be.
It is how you choose to express your love & your relationship that makes the ceremony meaningful to you & truly your own.
Get the white dress & wear it proudly. If you pass it up, you will be disappointed on this very special day.
2007-01-20 06:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I'm an avid reader and one thing I noticed was, in books that were about later time periods the brides hardly ever wore white. I did a little research to find out when the whole "purity" thing started. Much to my surprise I learned that the white originally started as a sign of wealth (and a little pride and arrogance) rather than purity. In the 1800's a white dress could usually only be worn once because it got dirty so easily and was very difficult to clean. When a girl got married she would wear a white dress to show off that she was wealthy enough to buy a dress that she would only wear once. We still have the tradition of buying a dress that we only wear once and I see nothing wrong with it being white.
I am a Christian and devout in my faith but I have yet to have any one prove to me out of the Bible that a bride wearing a white dress is a sign of her purity! Some people will frown on you wearing white for a remarriage but the majority of those people will also frown on your being remarried as well. People will also frown on other decisions that you make just because they are critical. Just remember that this is your special day and while tradition is something to be valued it does not need to take precedents in your decisions. Best of wishes on your day and I hope everything goes beautifully for you!
2007-01-20 07:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tiny Leprechaun 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
White would be okay if it were just a regular dress. You should not be wearing a traditional wedding gown for a second wedding. Maybe just a nice tea-length dress.
2007-01-20 09:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 years old, and I'm still a virgin just so that one day I can wear a white wedding gown with pride, dignity, and class like my mother did and her mother did before me. So I'm probably not the best person to answer this question. But just reading the nonchalance with which most people answered this question (as though having 2 and 3 marriages with multiple children and still wearing white is a perfectly GOOD thing) makes me sick to my stomach. I always wondered why out of a planet of billions, the bible says that only 188,000 will make it to Heaven. I think now I know why.
2007-01-20 06:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Don't worry about it - you should wear whatever color you like. I wouldn't want to risk ruining a beautiful dress by dying it, although a good seamstress could certainly add some color with beading if you decide to do that.
There are so many second (and third, and fourth...) marriages these days, as well as couples that live together for many years before they get married. I doubt anyone will frown on you wearing white - and if they do, it is their problem.
I chose not to wear white to my wedding (my first) because I am pale and white is not flattering on me. I wore a dark champagne color instead.
The "rules" are broken all the time - wear what makes you happy.
Best of luck :)
2007-01-20 06:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by JenJen 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Ok, being a wedding planner, you can wear white even if it's a second wedding. There are loads of wedding dresses now that incorperate white and colors together. White isn't always for the first wedding and being that you can wear any color you choose. Some brides even chose wearing ivory, or any other color. But if the dress you've choosen is the one you want to wear then wear it. The traditional ways of weddings aren't the same as they were years ago. Go with your heart, if you love the dress wear it.
2007-01-20 06:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Honey...everyone woman deserves to wear white! I don't care if this is your first or fifth wedding. Tradition may dictate not to wear white if it's not your first wedding...but there is nothing that says you can't start your OWN tradition. Are you proud to be marrying this man? Are you ready to be a Bride? Show it!!! Wear what makes you feel beautiful...CONGRATS!
2007-01-20 08:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by kcarp73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion: I think you should wear the gown on your wedding day. I have been to several weddings that the bride wears white and it is a second marriage. Furthermore, the bride had kids that were part of the wedding party. This is your day, your budget, your new life together, and your memory make it happen the way you desire.
JCG
2007-01-20 06:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysjcg 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Tradition is just that - tradition. Nothing says you have to stick to it! Wear whatever color you like ... it's your "first wedding" to this man, so wear the dress you really love at the great price! Does anyone really care if the bride is in white or off-white, pearl white or diamond white, ivory, or another shaded hue? She's in a "white" dress to signify she's the bride! Go with the dress you've picked out!
2007-01-20 06:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by adk_medic 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's your wedding. Wear what you want. If anybody has a problem with it, tell them that they're free to stay home and skip the wedding. What's tradition doing at wedding these days, anyway?
2007-01-20 07:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by kaiticometrue 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello, I understand what tradition says but this is a new time no one follows traditions anymore. It's not about what other people think it's about what makes you and your future husband happy. If you look beautiful in the dress and you are happy then that is all that matters. Don't alter the dress, you bought it for the beauty it already had, this is your day to share with the people you love and I am sure a white dress won't put a damper in anything.
2007-01-20 06:33:44 · answer #11 · answered by Corliss J 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋