am i too young to be in relationship..?

Question

first of all, i'm a 19 year old high school senior.
i got a bf about two months ago and he's my first bf i've ever had.. we cuddle alot at school but i feel shy when he holds my hand or hugs me in public.. we'v kissed several times thus far but every time he kissed me or asked me to kiss him before i went home..

i already told my mom i got a bf, but she didn't believe or at least seemed not to believe it.. she knew my bf through me, but she didn't favor me to have him as bf.. from then on, i don't talk about my bf to my mom, and i just lie to her when i'd like to hang out with him..

but this makes me feel guilty and my head's getting messed up because i don't talk to my family much since then. every time i feel like i'm hiding something from them..

what's wrong with me..? am i too young to have a relationship? why can't i muster my courage to be proud of having a boyfriend in front of my family?

do i need to end this relationship..? or what alternative can you tell me.?

Answer 1

Mark Twain once said, "Never lie and you'll never have to remember anything." Tell the truth. You're 19! That's is a fine age to have a bf. People have bf's at even younger ages and feel they can handle it. Maybe your age has nothing to do with this, maybe it's your mentality and emotional sides that need to "age."

Answer 2

First off, there is nothing wrong with you. Believe me, people who have a relationship for the first time may feel awkard at first because they are allowing someone to be more closer and intimate with them. It doesn't matter at any age now a days when it comes to relationships. My younger cousin who is 12 just got his first girlfriend and he himself is a little awkward being in a relationship but he really likes his girl. I'm not sure how you were raised, or how your lifestyle was, but i could assume you came from a family who has expectation of you doing better of a guy which probably why your mom didn't believe or want to believe. Is your bf treating you right? Is he an honest to good guy type? If your bf has lots of good qualitys about him than i suggest that you should start bring about his good qualities infront of your family. Oh, its a greater bonus if you can have him open the door for you, or come to the door when he picks you up, etc... all the good ol' chivlary things in front of your mom...lol It does take awhile for a parent to get use to the fact their child is getting into relationships... so it will take time... well i got to get ready for work.. i hope i helped you in some ways... take care

Answer 3

At 19 I don't think you're too young to have a bf but I do think that if the relationship is not one in which you can be open and honest with your family you may want to reconsider. If you've had a good relationship with your mom until now, ask her to have a serious conversation with you about this guy and find out if there is a valid reason she has for not wanting him to be your bf. Maybe she simply needs the opportunity to get to know him so she'll feel comfortable with you spending time with him. If you handle it in a mature adult way then you have a better chance of getting mom's approval. Now, if after you talk to her, she still disapproves (whether you feel her reasons are valid or not) out of respect for her being your mother and you living with her (I'm guessing) you and this guy may want to just be friends till you graduate. No guy is worth ruining your relationships with family!!
Good Luck!

Answer 4

First of all no your not young to have a bf. When it comes to having no courage to be proud of him thats normal. It just means that you need to spend more time with him and let him get to know your family. One day you may end up marrying this guy. Just introduce him to the family and I think you will feel much better. Don't give up now. It takes time to really know how you feel about a guy even those that your family have never met.

Answer 5

At 19 you are not too young to have a boyfriend. In truth this is a little older than most girls are when they have their first boyfriend. Bring your boyfriend home and say hay Mom this is my boyfriend John. Then see what she has to say. You have done nothing to feel guilty about you just have to get the courage to stand up to your parents. Next year you will go off to college and you will have lots of other boyfriends but you will never again have a first. Treat this as the special time it is. Good luck and remember you are fantastic.

Answer 6

To answer the first question. No you are not too young to be in a relationahip.
I say dont let anything or anyone come between the one you love. It normal for parents to be over protective too. A parents worst fear is having thier child get raped. That fear drives them to seem over controling.
Dont fear PDA either. If people dont like it, then thats thier problem.
In the end, do you really love this guy? Thats all that matters, even after all the hardships you must endore, I beleive it is worth it for the one you love.

Answer 7

No, you are not too young to have a relationship with a boy. Invite your bf to your house to spend a couple of hours getting to know your family. This will also give you two the chance to learn more about each other, away from school. Learn more about what each of you likes ... music, movies, TV, food, colleges to attend, career fields you want to explore ... just get to know each other.

Answer 8

Honestly your not too young to be in a relationship, I mean your not 11 or 12. Your mom needs to chill out your old enough to make your own decisions. She should be proud of you, I mean my parents would of loved me dating until 19, not 14!Maybe your shy because you never had a boyfriend and you feel awkward having him around your family, but its normal. You should be honest with your mom and tell her your dating him because mothers eventually find out and maybe she will get mad if she finds out from someone who isn't you. You need to relax and feel confidence to make your own decisions, not everyone is gonna like them but they have to respect them, your not a little girl anymore.If your happy, that's should make them happy. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Its something you have to work with, try being upfront with your family. They will always be there for you. Everyone makes good and bad decisions, the trick is to learn from your mistakes and take everything in stride. Don't let your family hold you back from having good relationships. Live and learn. Practice makes perfect the more you do something the easier it will get.. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Let things progress naturally and comfortably with your boyfriend and stop worrying about it. Just don't do anything you don't want to or aren't ready for and enjoy getting to know each other. And, if you want to be treated as an intelligent and mature adult capable of making your own choices and decisions, you've got to act like one, and stop hiding and lying. You don't have to babble on about everything you and your boyfriend say and do; just be honest and don't lie.