my mother inlaw is obessed she tries to tell me what to do and always tries to dominate me she has already dominated her son, its like when i first got married she would tell me what to wear howto act at first i was like ok beyatch! bcuz i was new to the country and didnt know the customs(over seas outside america) then she got on my nerves i stopped listening to her and wore what i wanted acted as i pleased but at home shes a damn annoying lady! like when i first wake up get outa my room to get some tea she would come invite herself in my room and sit down and start bitching about how theres an empty soda can and the room is messy, she always tries to rule and comment on every single thing man!!! not to mention she tries every possible thing to make her son to hate me and fight with me, she lies to the fullest with a straight face and teary eyes and a fake heart attack chest pains man!!!!! no guys he doesnt want to move out he refuses to leave his mom dad he says im not going to leave
2007-01-20 05:57:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ohhhhhhhh you have my deepeset deepest sympathies love!!! MOTHER IN LAWS are the spawn of the devil - they are EVIL!!!! my mother in law has my fella so brainwashed that she doesn't even have to lift a finger half the time - he feels guilty automatically!!
we meet a lovely man - fall for him like crazy - his parents seems pretty sweet and nice - a year or so in - we still love our man but come on down the evil in laws!! its universal sweetheart!! ALL in laws suck and are a pain in the ****!!!! you know what you gotta do???
WAIT FOR THEM TO DIE!!!!!!!!!!! and spend every day wishing the day would come quicker!!!! LOL!!!!!
in the meantime whilst your waiting - just play the game!! don't ever slate your mother in law to your partner - be nice always - then he can never hold anything against you!! be nice to her - but just find very un obvious ways to upset her!! I find the less a complain about his parents - the more he does!!
2007-01-21 23:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Grace - baby No.2 due in October 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry u have 2 go through this my mum was the same wit my girl,talk 2 ur hubby tell him how u feel and what shes like wit u.suggest that u save for ur own place u need ur privacy ur marriage will blossom,it cant b much of a marriage stuck wit the in laws,give him an ultimatum i guarentee u hell pick u.i stopped talking to my fam 5yrs ago and ive never been happier.
2007-01-20 15:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother in law myself I'm probably not going to be the most popular person on this question LOL.
My first thought is that you are living in her home- if she likes things neat or done a certain way- do it her way...don't leave an empty soda can (yours or someone else's) sitting around. Neaten the room when you go in and neaten it when you leave the room- her house her rules---you live there you follow them.
Do not disrespect her as that gives her license to disrespect you.
Do not dress in a disrespectful way, when you are in your own home dress as you like---you live with her- don't disrespect her by dressing in a way she dislikes.
Because you are not getting along with her this gives her more ammunition to use against you.
I'm not saying to kiss her *** but until you are no longer under her roof you really don't have a choice if you want your marriage to work just be mature, calm, and refuse to argue.
If things get really bad-discuss it with your husband (not petty things-major things I mean) and insist that he speak with his parents. But keep in mind that this may make things worse if she is as bad as you imply. Don't whine---state facts to him. Unfortunately it may all boil down to "he said, she said" kind of thing. So choose your battles carefully.
Lastly, start researching homes or apartments in your area that you and your husband may be able to afford. During a one on one time with him bring up the subject and tell him that you have researched moving out. List the pluses of the two of you being on your own---
You might even be able to get the MOL on your side with this---she probably wants you out of her house as much as you want out.
2007-01-20 14:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by ceetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a mama's boy....Not good. It sound like your mother-in-law considers you to be a servant rather than a daughter-in-law.
Your wimpy husband will never, and I mean never go against his mother. He's got the best of both worlds...you catering to him and mommy catering to him...There is no way he's gonna leave that situation any time soon.
Wimp-boy can't stop you from leaving. I would make a run to the door and never look back!
2007-01-20 14:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop faking the heart attacks. Red Foxx ( a movie star)used to do that all the time and he really died from one. Everyone laughed when he fell over dead because they thought he was faking it. Surely she can put her "acting" to better use, such as pretending to be Hazel the maid and clean up the place. That'll keep her busy.
2007-01-20 15:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry that you have to go through this. Your husband sounds like a mama's boy.That is not good, especially for you.
I don't know why you guys are living with his parents, but no house is large enough for two women if you know what I mean.
I would sit down with your husband and explain your concerns. Tell him you need your privacy and need your own place with your husband. If he refuses, then you have to decide it you want to live your life miserably or break up.
Good luck.
2007-01-20 14:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in -law treated me like this though I didn't live with her that would have been a nightmare.It took me years to tell my husband which was stupid as he then saw for himself and supported me.He actually gave her a good telling off which made her treat me a bit better so get your husband to support you.My mother-in-law is no longer here but I've got a daughter in law whose a rotter,you can't win in this life.
2007-01-20 17:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by sanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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The best thing to do is to move out of the house and enjoy your family life totally.Some in-laws behave such a manner for reasons only known to them.Take a clue from here.Your husband must understand that he has a family to care for.Try to discuss it to your parents and get their opinions.
2007-01-20 14:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by batu5001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mother-in-law is being a right old *****! Don't let her get away with it! Invite him round to stay at your Mums place, and then get your Mum to act like this with him- he'll soon see how annoying it is! If not, stand up to his Mum and tell her to leave you alone otherwise you will convince your boyfriend to move away from her....altogether.
2007-01-20 14:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to grow some balls and stick up for you. You are his wife he needs to put you first and cut the apron strings to mommy. Mother-in-laws can be your worst nightmare! So tell him you are not putting up with it and to defend you . Tell him you need your own place or your going to leave him.
2007-01-20 14:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋