2007-01-20 05:49:49 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am dating someone who has already told me he has a lot of female friends. he doesn't want to hide it from me and he wants me to trust him and ask him anything I want. i have met one of the friends and i was fine with the situation. I have male friends too but i don't talk to them all that often. He also has told me that he hasn't dated any of them and doesn't want to. i want to trust him but have been burned in the past
2007-01-20 06:12:24 · update #1
It is, as long as the friendship comes naturally. If it's something you're trying to keep up, trying to maintain or you've having thoughts about how taking it further is going to "ruin the friendship" then you're not that much of friends to begin with in the first place. If you don't want anything more it's best not to even mention what the complications of that might be because as soon as you do it gets weird and it is very, very difficult to keep that friendship up. You find yourself starting up conversations about stuff and talking and doing things that are completely unnatural and out of context, just in the name of being friends, and you're always conflicted about acting out on the way that you really feel about that person. Chances are if you're asking that question, about a certain someone or something, it's already a wrap.
2007-01-20 05:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had plenty of male friends where it is purely platonic. So I believe they can. However having spoken to many males over the years about the subject they all say no. They said honestly that for so long there is no problem, but at some point they find themselves with sexual inclines towards their female friends. Which causes problems, because they can never act on these feelings it is bottled up and they then become stronger. Personally I think if they had the balls to talk it through with their female friends the situation would become null and void and the friendship would be stronger.
My husbands opinion is NO. He says the sex thing always gets in the way. He always points out When Harry Met Sally.
2007-01-20 06:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by maidmaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have a good friend that I've known her for 12 years and see her about 5 days out of 7. I worked with her 8 years ago. She's like the sister I never had. She's 5 years older than me. I also have a good friend that is 19 years older than me. She's good looking for 54. She thinks it's weird that we can be friends.
I've got plenty of other female friends but wouldn't mind if it turned into more.
2007-01-20 05:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think alot depends on whether you start out romantically and then turn platonic, or if your platonic from the get go. If you're platonic from the get-go, heck yes. As far as breaking up and being friends, I'd have to say no. When I've encountered that one, it starts out that way, but you almost always gradually lose contact, and pretty soon it's like the other person doesn't even exist. "Staying friends", to me at least, is just a nice way of saying that you're not breaking up over a huge fight.
2007-01-20 05:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cheyenne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's possible for men and women to just friends. Cause I have a lot of female friends. and I never look at them in a way of dating.
2007-01-20 05:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by REV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its very possible. Its alot easier to be just friends if their was no prior romance between the two. My best friend is a guy we known each other for 20 years never had any relationship whatsoever with him and have a great bond with one another.
2007-01-20 05:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my "guy friend" is my neighbor and we met in 5th grade and he loved me and knew we could be great friends! I of course thought he was the most annoying little boy ever but now since were in 7th grade, I actually like him as a "friend" now and we get along great as friends but we have gone out 3 times and now hes dating my friend and we are pretty good friends and I like him just as a friend now and we try to forget that we ever dated and made out so we can stay friends but just saying, we most likely will date again because I love him! hes just so funny and cute! were neighbors too and that doesnt help any! lol
2007-01-20 05:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by ~V@NN@H~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing required for this to happen is maturity. Both parties must be mature enough to realize when a friendship is a better path than romance. I have, and have had awesome friendships with women...
2007-01-20 05:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by Robert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely.me ,myself I prefer to hang around males. Female clicks don't do it for me, I have a few close friends that I go out with regularly that are female, but I still prefer to hang with the opposite sex because they aren't as judgmental and gossipy that is if you hang out with the right type of men who are mature enough to have a platonic relationship.
2007-01-20 05:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rarely, nearly every guy I have met wants to be more than friends with me, it's annoying because sometimes you just want to ignore the gender and have someone to talk/listen to, you know?
2007-01-20 05:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋