This morning I woke up and found a note on the table that said
I made a big mistake last night and I cheated on you. If you still want to be with me, be home at 3 when I get off work. Otherwise give me an hour or two and I'll move my stuff out. I dont know what else to say- Im sorry.
Should I leave him or try to work things out? We have been together for 2 1/2 years. We aren't married, we just moved in together 6 months ago. He has never cheated before (that I know of).
2007-01-20 05:48:51 · 30 answers · asked by maggielynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think he cheated any other times either. if he told you right away that means he feels guilty about what happend and he obviously doesn't want to lose you. i would sit down and talk to him when he gets home and find out what's really bothering him. is he bored with you?? does he have feelings for this other girl?? was he just drunk and it was an accident?? then you need to take some time and really think about what you want...do you think you'd be able to trust him not to cheat on you again?? i do believe in accidents and if he does genuinely feel bad about what happened, then i'd say forgive him this time but keep him on a short leash and if something else ever happens again, then leave him.
2007-01-20 05:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by chingona1027 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You deserve respect. Demand that.
He tells you that you have two choices. Keep me or toss me.
How about telling him you need time to think through your response. There is no rush. You are not in great danger. Talk it out with him. Ask why he cheated. What was he not getting from your relationship? You'll either end up together or apart. But at least you can know that the decision you made was not made on a whim.
P.S. When my spouse cheated on me, I demanded that he get tested for HIV. And being that HIV doesn't show up right away, I'd tell him to get retested every month or two for the next 6 months to a year. And practice safe sex before then.
2007-01-20 14:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "Rusty", "Billy J", and "Sea", and it's nice to see some guys that are admitting that yes...some men cheat....and yes...they will cheat again, given the chance. Before you make your decision, ask yourself these three things, keeping in mind that you deserve to be happy, loved, and treated with respect!!!!
1) Now that you know that your boyfriend just jeopardized his entire relationship with you for the sake of another woman's a**...how does that make you feel?
2) If you forgave him, how would that change the dynamics of the relationship? Would you start over-analyzing his every move, and monitoring him like a six-year-old? Think about how you would react every time he said he was working late, or meeting his buddies for a drink...
3) Could he have done this to purposely sabotage the relationship? Were there any signals beforehand that he wasn't happy?
If I were you, I'd kick him to the curb hunnie. Someone who is worth holding onto will NOT cheat on you.....they may think about it now and then...but acting on impulses like that is wrong...no matter how sorry they are, or how honest they are...
If he wants to f*** around, let him do it on his time, not yours :-)
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-20 14:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sally Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try working it out, at least he told u the truth. 2 1/2 years is a lot and you shouldn't just throw it away like that. He's admitting he made a big mistake and that takes a lot of courage.
2007-01-20 13:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should set back and check things out because if he cheated on you once what to say he won't do it again. I guest the question is do you love him? Maybe you and him need to seat down and talk fine out if this relationship is what you want. Because no woman need to be with a man that cheat because he can give you any kind of STD. A one night stand can but you in a early grave. Maybe you and him need to go to couple counseling if you wish to save your relationship. But if that was me I would put him out so fast his head would spin. No woman deserve to be cheated on. Because every woman is a queen in her own way.
2007-01-20 14:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk it out then make your decision.. if you decide to stay with him you need to put your foot down and make sure he knows you will not be cheated on again.. It seems like you two have gotten really close so dont go making drastic decisions without talkin to him.. people make mistakes, life isnt always beautiful. So talk to him.. Hope this helped.. Good luck
2007-01-20 13:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by keesee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say try to work it out... If he's going enough to admit it to you, and give you a choice, then he's wonderful. No men I know would tell you like that, and even if they did, they wouldn't word the note so nicely. Stay with him and work it out. I have a good feeling about you two :]
2007-01-20 13:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a L-O-N-G talk with him and figure out what happened, but you really have to admire the fact that he is honest and told you. It's not good that he cheated, but most guys would hide that form you. A guy that admits that and apologizes should have the right to a second chance.
2007-01-20 13:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Bridget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll at least your man has somewhat of a conscience and told you. Or maybe he knew you'd find out from friends? I'd probally leave him, but that's just me. I would also wonder why he would be OK/so quick to say he will move out? Maybe he wants to be free for a while? Talk to him, then decide. Good Luck, and sorry!
2007-01-20 13:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by pearl28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out. You obviously have something special. Give him another chance. Just don't let him make the same mistake and get away with it.
2007-01-20 13:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by shyboo91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋