I live in Arkansas but I heard about the proposal to make a law in California to ban spanking kids uder the age of three. There is a difference between abuse and spanking. I think that's why teenagers are getting into so much trouble nowadays b/c parents are too afraid to spank. I respect everyone's opinion on this.
2007-01-20 05:43:02 · 19 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i got the belt switch the hand and everything eles when i was little but i turned out fine and i have 3 boys and when they need it for doing something to hurt themself or eachother then yes i will spank them and they wont do it again but the law is going to make it where they will be the ones raising our kids it needs to stop
2007-01-20 06:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by jab 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that there are more than two sides to this coin. Not just the difference between abuse and spanking, but everything in between. The problem is that Child Protection Services is tearing families apart for non abusive situations. It has been proven than children under three do not need to be hit in any way. This doesn't mean that a parent can't spank a five year old. Just that when they are so young parents need to take the time to guide them instead of taking off their diaper and repeatedly hitting them on the butt. A child so young does not need to be introduced to violence.
2007-01-20 06:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by lilacdelight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. Many of the teens I see today are so disrespectful to their elders. I was spanked a few times as a kid and I think I turned out fine. I do not spank my baby (she's too young) and I hope I never have to, but I won't say that I never will. There is definitely a time and place for it. I've noticed that time-out just doesn't work with some kids.
2007-01-20 05:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that teens today are the way they are because they weren't spanked. If anything, spanking only causes more problems down the road.
I put all of my children in a time out. (the amount of time is equivilent to the age, for example, 3 years old, 3 minutes, 5 years old five minutes. This usually does not work for kids past 10)
During the time out session, the child sits without interacting with anyone. After the time is up, (set a timer). The parent gets eye level with the child and asks the child if they know the reason they were placed in time-out. The child will respond, ex. "I hit my sister", or whatever it was. Then the parent will reiterate why they were in time out. The child then will be expected to apologize and promise not to do it again.
I find this type of discipline works the best. It helps the child understand that in life, there are consequences for their actions.
I don't and never will think that hitting is OK.
2007-01-20 05:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I absolutely agree..I don't have kids of my own. But I come from a huge family and well I have always been a babysitter since in my teens. I respect peoples wishes about not spanking or spanking.
But the ones who weren't spanked as small children seem to be well BRATS! Not all of them but alot of them.
And the children who were spanked or even threatened with a spanking usually were very well mannered children who listened to their elders without much of a fuss.
I helped my mom with my lil brother( i am 20 years older then him) and at first they didn't spank him until he started toget outta hand. Then they did their was quite a bit of difference in his behavior. He still acts out a lil but for the most part if you threaten him with a spanking he knows to straighten it up.
I think people confuse abuse with spankings ..I know there are some who just flip out and end up hurting children..but most people do not.
I feel that not enough discipline is leading children nowadays into the wrong direction. I would neve rlet my children talk ot me the way I see some kids in public. Just makes me angry.
2007-01-20 05:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by marshhope 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I was spanked as a kid, and I didn't like it, but you can be sure whatever I did to earn the spanking I never did again! Our kids were spanked when they were younger and they seem to be terrifcly behaved children compared to what I see in the malls.
2007-01-20 05:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
discipline is something all of us need in life, it is something that is needed to keep us on the right track. discipline for children is about teaching and guiding them into learning right from wrong, learning to make good choices and helping them become good and productive adults. All of us as parents have differnet views and experiences and what works for one child may not work for another, whether a parent spanks or not should not be the determining factor on whether we think a parent is a good parent or not, but looking at the children and seeing what is being accomplished with them, in their attitudes, their behaviors, their relationships with their parents/family and how they treat others can be keys in determining how a parent is doing with their child but at the same time realizing that children are not alike and some are harder then others to discipline and in that case, chances are the parent has not sought out the "right" discipline for that child. I think some people are too quick to judge becasue they do not agree with a technique. I personally do not have a problem with spanking as I have spanked on a few occasions, a swat on the diaper, but for the most part, I have found that redirecting, taking something away for a period of time, and communication and consistency are important keys in disciplining our child. children need to know what they did wrong and why they are being disciplined. There are many resources out there to help parents and it is too bad that there are many not seeking out those resources, none of us are perfect but it is possible to raise good productive kids into becoming great adults, it isn't a matter of whether you spank or not, it is a matter of knowing your child and seeking out what will help them to grow and to mature and for myself personally, I am not afraid to change my technique if needed. We need to ask our selves if what we are doing is helping our kids, if it isn't then something is wrong. I know people who came from both sides of the issues and those with good loving parents who had the children's interests as a top priority, are great productive loving adults, some have fallen through the cracks of very bad parenting, some were spanked and some were not. definetly working in the inner city with all classes of people have opened my eyes when it comes to parenting. And of course there are always exceptions......(some kids who grow up in great loving homes end up on the other side as well as some who come from abusive situations come out on the good end of things which I am a good example of that). I believe I personally am a good parent as well as my husabnd, not perfect but we are content with the way things are going in our house hold, and every one is happy and easy to live with.
2007-01-20 06:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by kandislen 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost three years old and we have never spanked her. There are much better ways to discipline children than spanking. We give her time outs, take away her privileges, or redirect her. If she acts up, all I have to say is "Do we need to have a talk?" and she turns right around. Spanking is for parents who choose not to educate themselves about effective methods of parenting. It's also a sign that the parent does not have control of his/her own emotional responses. Spanking is a form of violence and will only teach a child that violence is the way to resolve problems. My daughter is very well behaved for her age, in part because we have chosen to respect her as an intelligent human being.
I don't know about this law, this is just my opinion about spanking.
2007-01-20 05:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by GeminiVirgo1971 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I know someone who works for the Department of social services and she said that spanking you child is completely legal as long as you don't leave a mark and she said the last time she spanked her daughter her daughter was 16 years old. she just laughed at her but i think she got her point across. i am glad that my dad spanked me becuase i never took advantage of him like i see some kids doing
2007-01-20 05:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The government has no right to tell people how to raise their kids. CPS is full of idiots who don't care bout kids with broken bones. They'd rather waste their efforts on kids who are being spanked than kids who are in the hospital all the time because their parents break their bones everytime the adults are mad.
2007-01-20 07:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋