ME AND MY BF ARE BOTH IN SCHOOL. WE ARE IN A SOMEWHAT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP(45MIN). WE ARE BOTH IN THE ARMY RESERVES. WE ARE THINKING ABOUT GETTING MARRIED SO THAT WE CAN BE TOGETHER.WE WOULDN'T HAVE A WEDDING. WE WOULD GO TO THE COURTHOUSE. BUT MY THING IS I'M WORRIED ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY ABOUT GETTING MARRIED AT THE COURTHOUSE. ALSO B/C PEOPLE USUALLY WAIT TILL THEY FINISH SCHOOL AND STUFF. I HAVE A YEAR LEFT IN SCHOOL. HE HAS ABOUT A YEAR AND HALF TO GO. WE ARE BOTH IN OUR EARLY 20'S
2007-01-20 05:40:45 · 41 answers · asked by T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
who cares what other people think...................go for it
2007-01-20 05:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
In this age, there is no shame in marrying in a courthouse by the town judge ... it's just a way to keep your costs way down so you have money to buy your house, finish and pay for your schooling, buy a car, or start your family. Most people don't frown on college students getting married before graduation nowadays either - and your diploma will have your married name on it instead of your maiden name which could be a bonus for you - especially if you're in a field with licensure upon completion, like nursing or counselor - changing a name on a professional license is costly and time consuming!
You could also get married by a justice of the peace or judge and host a small reception after, at your convenience, for friends and family. You shouldn't have to finish school to attain your dreams of being married to the man you love!
The other option is you guys could wait the year until you're both done with college and then get married with the wedding and reception if that's what you want ... ultimately it's up to you and your fiance but do what will make you both happiest ... in a year no one will care that you got married in the courthouse or in a huge church wedding! It's your memories that are most important!
2007-01-20 05:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by adk_medic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if you even have to ask this question, then there's a bit of a possiblity that you're not ready. i say that you should finish school first-and if you're really too impatient to wait-then try moving in together at some point, which is incredibly important. expieriencing how well you work together at home, where you'll have to see each other almost all the time-is an important factor in any relationship. and also, why not wait the year and a half until youre both out of school, then live together for a bit first?
being in love hinders judgement sometimes (most of the time), but really the choice is up to you. marriage and proposals are the happiest and most hopeful things in the world, and if you really do love him, whatever you choose will be the right thing.
hope everything works out well for you two :)
2007-01-20 05:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by moongazer172001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say this much. 45 minutes is nothing, my fiance goes to school in chicago an lives in Virginia. Thats long distance. Anyways, good question. Now let me ask you this, if your family member loved someone and married him/her in a court house do you think they would care what you thought about it. NO of course not. Don't worry abot what anyone thinks about any of your decisions, it's yor life. Just make triple sure that this is what you both want and that you both will love each other forever. One way to find out is, to realize how much you to miss each other when your not aroun each other, if you can't stop thinking of each other, and if your heart is not full without the other one there. It shoudln't matter where you get married courthouse, Vegas or a church. It's your heart, your love, an most importantly your life.
About school, man couples get married and than finish school. It would probably help you because than you will have that mutual support from someone you know you love and you know you can trust to be there for you for any supposrt no matter what. Congrates and good luck.
2007-01-20 05:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by taurusman5480 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say who cares about what people think. What i would do is plan the wedding while you have a year to go for school and have a nice wedding. So you dont regret just going to the courthouse. You should think it out some more and if you have no other choice then go to the courthouse. Good luck
2007-01-20 07:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think? The two of you need to discuss it and decide what is right for you.
I know that you are aware that marriage always requires some degree of adjustment and compromise, and therefore causes increased stress. Top-notch marriages rarely just happen; they require work and attention by both partners.
Your marriage will have a better chance of lasting if you wait until both of you have graduated and can concentrate on your new partnership. Between school, reserves and a long-distance relationship, you've both got enough to worry about already.
Only you guys can decide what's best for you, of course. But do consider the risks as well as the rewards that come with getting married right now.
2007-01-20 06:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let what other people think influence your decisions. No matter what the circumstance SOMEONE is always going to have something to say about your decision. The fact that you are even asking strangers for help on such a personal decision makes me think that you are not ready. But if school is really a priority then you will finish even if you are married. I don't think marriage makes it harder to finish school unless you add kids into the picture, I think you should definitely wait until you are done with school to start having kids. Good luck and God bless!
2007-01-20 06:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Krystin F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's entirely up to you two. And who cares what anybody says. There is nothing wrong with getting married at the courthouse....you can always have a wedding later on. You both are old enough to make your own decisions and you both are 2 consenting adults. Good Luck to you both....
2007-01-20 05:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school first and live your individual lives for a while. You'll be glad you did.
You shouldn't get married just because it'd make seeing each other more convenient. That'll put you on the fast track to a divorce.
If you truly love each other, then you don't need to rush into anything. He'll still be around in a few years, right? If not, then you have a gigantic problem.
2007-01-20 05:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try living together first, then if it works then get married. Your choice on where to get married is yours and don't worry what others think about the courthouse, you could have a better wedding later.
2007-01-20 05:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard a lot of people tell me to wait until I'm out of school to get married..but if you feel like you are ready, then youre only stopping yourself. If you and your boyfriend truly feel like you are ready to commit and want to get married in a courthouse, why not? you could have a big wedding once you are out of school and have some money saved up.
2007-01-20 05:44:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋