A few wks ago, i went on 2 dates with a guy i've liked for a while. Big passion, kisses & invited me to his place after the 2nd date which i wasn't ready for & explained to him. Afterwards he didn't return my call and I was hurt. Since that, I've run into him a few times..we use the same places. He always looks a little nervous with me..seems like he still likes me..he's friendly and teases me. He txted me a few times..teasing me. I called suggested we meet & he said he'd call but didn't instead sent me a happy xmas txt. So I called him to invite him for a drink with my friends at my place.
He said he didn't know if he'd come & would call me. He didn't call
but instead txted me 'happy new yr & vacn' a few days later. When I got back after vacn I wrote 'how're u, I'm thinking of you'. He txted immed. 'grt, how was the trip'. I replied but he still hasn't asked me out. He told me he's shy & also dated lots of girls in last 2yrs since end of long term reln.
Do I have a chance?
2007-01-20 05:29:54 · 9 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you explained you wasnt ready for going to his flat,which means you have an issue around being used maybe. he said he is shy,but his shyness never got in the way of him dating lots of girls,inviting you back to his flat,teasing you with texts.
You have a great chance of being laid,but as far as anything honest is concerned ...forget it.
You sound a little obsessed about him,and perhaps this has happened to you before, so you have the experience that this too shall pass.
you have thrown down the gauntlet and invited him to get pissed with you in your castle,but he backed off ,probably because the shift in power (your flat.your friends) would be a little to overwhelming for his ego.
my fancy is you have shown him a neediness, a subservience,and you are passive with him,and he has shown you contempt.. i hope i am not too deep for you,, but i am an expert on such matters of the heart....
yOU SOUND VULNERABLE, SO BE A LITTLE EXTRA NURTURING WITH YOURSELF TO HELP YOU THRROUGH THIS PERIOD.
2007-01-20 05:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but no he's a player, he couldn't be bothered when he found out that you weren't an easy s**g.
Yeah he's staying on friendly terms with you but probably only so things aren't too awkward when you do see each other.
We always want what we can't have which will make this even more difficult than it already is.
He's a bum so don't waste any more time on him, if he texts or calls ignore him - the power will give you more strength but from what you've said he probably wouldn't bother contacting you if you didn't initiate it.
Better luck with the next bloke - they are not all s**ts trust me x
2007-01-20 05:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't sure about himself and you. Maybe if you give him some more time and ask him does he not want to go out with you right now? Just tell him you like him and would like to be around him if only for coffee or lunch. Tell him you really need to no were you stand. If you don't ask you will never no and will always wonder.
2007-01-20 05:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by LadyBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He invited you back too soon but doesn't follow up.
2. He's evasive.
3. Lots of dates but no commitment?
Answer: He's comparing all his dates to his LTR girl and they don't size up. he invited you back to his for sex and now he knows you value yourself more than to put out first date he doesn't want to offend you by dumping you after a ONS.
Don't get hung up on him he's not ready for you.
2007-01-20 06:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok heres the deal, he's interested but wants more than just friendship. if he wasnt interested, he would start going to new places instead of ones he knows you go to and wouldnt have texted you, but now feels rejected because you didnt accept his offer so now that makes him shy. ask him what the deal is now and wheres things r going? and if no answer, sry but find somsone new dont waste ur time with him. plenty of fish in the sea
2007-01-20 05:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by been there, dont that 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he might've just wanted a 'friend with benefits' since you didn't shell out the benefits you've now been put in the 'just a casual friend' category
2007-01-20 05:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? No, I don't think so. He's been very evasive, men don't tend to behave like that if they're interested.
2007-01-20 05:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to bog off better catches out there good luck
2007-01-20 08:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.ask him out.
maybe he's shy to ask you again.
or find someone else.
dont worry.
2007-01-20 05:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋