When I am around a guy that I like I don't really talk to him that much because I am very shy. This might also be the reason that I have never had a boyfriend....I am 14. I am just wondering if people think that I come across snotty when I am actually shy. Will I ever come out of my shyness and eventually get a boyfriend and later on get married?? Is this normal not having a boyfriend at 14 because it seems like EVERYBODY at school has had a boyfriend at this age?
2007-01-20 05:21:35 · 18 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need not worry of getting a boyfriend at your tender age. There's all the time in the world. Try not to snowball your problems. In other words, don't start with a very small issue and then let it grow and grow into a huge problem. Just because you don't have a boyfriend right now doesn't mean that you'll never get one, and then never get married!
As far as the snotty thing, I've noticed that sometimes shy people exhibit snotty body language (without knowing.) Do you cross your arms alot and hunch over? That type of posture would make you seem moody, like you're closing yourself off from the world. For the most part, society can recognize a shy person from an arrogant one, so it's probably not as bad as you think.
Here, THIS is "snotty":http://www.satt.org/grafiken5/girls-2.jpg
2007-01-20 05:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you have plenty of time to have a boyfriend. You might just find that having the roller-coaster ride of relationships at your age are just a pain.
Shyness can sometimes be perceived by others as snobby. You might want to ask some of your friends if that is the way people perceive you to be. Be careful if you are tender hearted, you might not like the answer, But you can learn something about yourself and with knowledge, you can change things a bit.
To overcome shyness, I think you need to be willing to take some risks. Pull on some self confidence, even if you have to fake it til you make it. Step out there and you might get hurt, we all do get hurt.
Most of the time it's about the other person's baggage, and if a relationship doesn't work, it is better to find out before you are in a "permanent" commitment.
You will get hurt, but in time, the hurt lessens and you are stronger and wiser for the lessons learned.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 05:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Carol B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have one until I was 16, and honestly, there's no rush. About 99.9% of the time relationships at a young age don't work out anyway. Don't try and get a boyfriend just because everyone else has one. Don't worry about it, you'll get a bf when the time is right.
As for your question... My husband is really shy around people he doesn't know and usually people think he is an as*hole because of that. People are probably always going to think that you're snotty but if you can't help it, you can't help it!!!!
2007-01-20 05:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by telenanher420a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know you.. But I do know, that if someone is shy, they do come across as being a snob.. I really like it when a friend can help me to come out of it in a party/place so I don't feel so shy..They help me with conversations that I am interested in, this way people can pick up on it and before you know it, you are making new friends..At 14 years old you really have a lot of time to get a boyfriend..If anyone asks why you don't have one, just say that you have a lot of things that are keeping you busy..
2007-01-20 05:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true, sometimes people think a shy person is snotty. I'm not sure which one I'd prefer. I was very shy through adolescence and young adulthood. It takes effort, but it's possible to get over it. In any case, I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. Now I am happily married. Hang in there.
2007-01-20 05:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, same here. I'm extremely shy, and no one has actually said to my face I'm snotty. Some people know I'm just shy, but people who don't really know me think I'm snotty sometimes. And my friend Amy was at a church event with a bunch of teenagers she didn't know, and she was shy. One of the teen's mom thought she was just being snotty, because she's really just shy. It bothers me when people are judgemental like that. Not everyone has great self confidence and is superly outgoing. I'm definitely not.
2007-01-20 05:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah people probably think your snotty... im shy too so when i first met my boyfriend's mom i didnt say much and she told him she thought i was a snob haha...14 is still young ull eventually get a boyfriend and break out of your shyness dont worry... after u spend more time with people and get to know them you'll be outgoing and fine
2007-01-20 05:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by KONAtown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal not to have a boyfriend. Trust me they'll be giving you enough grief soon enough. I used to be shy around everybody because I didn't have that good of self esteem. People thought that I was stuck up. Good guys usually aren't attracted to low self esteem. Try to raise your self esteem. If you don't, you'll become a jerk magnet. I know it sounds dumb, but look in the mirror every day and find something that you like about yourself. It works and you'll be happier.
2007-01-20 05:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up very shy and especially around a guy that i liked!!
Sad but true...I was always labled a ***** or a snob...but i
am soooo far from it!! Since your only 14 wait for awhile
and have fun with your friends...the boyfriend thing will come
around sooner or later!!
2007-01-20 05:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by rolinssis4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be shy but when I went to a dance with my friends I don't know why but I overcame it for some reason. The more you hang around less-shy people, the less shy you'll get! So also, people may think you could be a little snoty, but you're not, just get to know them better.
2007-01-20 05:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋