My Boyfriend Goes to school in North Carolina and I live in CT so the only time we get to see each other is on his break and then 75% of that time he is working. I recently started hanging out with this friend and one thing lead to another and we made out and i ended up with 4 large hickies on my neck......One of my boyfriends friends saw them and told him and i havent talked to him since then and its been like a week now.....what should i do? i need a male and female perspective on this one thaks!
2007-01-20 04:30:45 · 37 answers · asked by mantha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
CHEATER!!! MOVE ON!!
2007-01-20 04:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
female perspective here - call him. If he won't talk to you, send him an "I'm sorry" card (IF you really are sorry). If he does talk to you, then you and he need to have a conversation about the perameters (fancy word for rules) about your relationship. He just MIGHT be in a smililar situation and doesn't know how to talk to you about it either. You don't say that you're engaged to him, so unless you and he have given each other a committment that you don't mention, AND unless this "make out session" went further than that, I don't see much of a foul. But you do need to realize that if you're planning a future with this man, the long distance thing is going to get worse before it gets better untll the two of you can be in closer quarters.
2007-01-20 04:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you and your boyfriend are going to have to talk about what happened eventually. The best thing you can do is tell him the whole truth and don't lie about anything. Tell him why you did it and that you regret it a lot but let him decide what he wants to do about it. Give him some time and space and chances are he's going to want to get back at you so he might makeout with another girl. Even if that happens you two might still have a chance every diffucult situation is going to make you stronger.
2007-01-20 04:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in NC and the guy that i was talking to at one time was in Jersey and it was so hard. I mean I would talk to my boyfriend and be honest about how the distance is getting to you. IF he works all the time and you have some source of income and you guys want to work it out...come to a compromise that you guys will go half in on the bus ticket and maybe you guys can see each other every month or every other month.
2007-01-20 04:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it's because of the long distance problem. If that is a problem for you you should have told him that it's not working instead of keeping him as your boyfriend then making out with someone else. I think you need to tell him that you feel it's not working out between you guys and move on from each other.
2007-01-20 04:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't return your class he may still be venting and needs to be left alone. I would email him and ask him to speak with you that you would like to explain. Be honest to him. You may want to evaluate why you did it and if you are truly happy with this relationship. I am not sure how long you both have been together, but a realtionship can be salvaged after cheating has taken place. But I will tell you from experience, being the one cheated on, trust takes a long time to get back. And it is alot of work to get that trust back.
I think that is why you need to figure out if you are truly happy with this guy.
Good luck to you....:)
2007-01-20 04:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by ~Carolina Beach Girl~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,well making out might have been worked out but hickies come on how would you feel if he came home with 4 hickies on his neck? mad? of course you would! sorry hon you messed up!move on and find someone closer to home and avoid situations that get you in trouble and for crying out loud lay off the hickies all they do is make you look cheap and nasty.and consider this a learning experience for you.
2007-01-20 04:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end the long distance relationship. I mean obviously it isn't working out and you have your 'needs' while he is in North Carolina. You should break up with the guy in North Carolina politely and then ask out that guy you had made out with.
2007-01-20 04:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did you let this guy give you hickies??? Its bad enough that you cheated on your bf but to rub it in his face but having them on your neck is something else.
You need to call him and talk to him, don't chicken out its something you have to do.
I think long distance relationships aren't for you. End it now and let this poor guy find some happiness with someone who wont cheat on him.
2007-01-20 04:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to face the music. Maybe you should do some soul searching to see if you ever really wanted the relationship. Better to find out now than later.
2007-01-20 04:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a scorpio and that i appreciate sex. in spite of the undeniable fact that the largest false impression is that all scorpio women and men human beings are searching for dedicated, lengthy relationships. I mindset sex more effective casually, no longer that i'm a slut or something. i'm basically no longer searching for a relationship. i like being a scorpio yet i'm no longer always like my signal.
2016-10-17 02:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by rhona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋