My fiance & I got into a fight about our honeymoon, he called off the whole marriage what do I do??? ;(?

Question

We are 11 years apart, I love him, things have been tough on us lately, while trying to figure out where we are going for our honeymoon last night we go into an arguement and he broke off the engagement and everything, saying that our relationship is too much for him. He told me to do whatever I want, whether its date someone else or whatever. He told me good night and hung up on me. What makes it really bad is that this morning when I woke up he had deleted our pics from our myspace and his yahoo profile, putting single (this broke my heart) I love him, but if he doesnt want to be with me anymore....what more is left to say or do......I havent called and he hasnt either.....by the way right now we are also 11 hours away

I dont thing it was anyones fault really, he wanted to go to somewhere tropical, and I wanted to go to italy...He said we couldn't afford it, but I told him why he could afford a 40 thousand dollar car for cash but not a freaking nice honeymoon

We have been together for two years, and engaged for about 8 months...but I have known him all of my life, his mom was there when I was born, we grew up together...my parents and I moved away from our town when I started my junior year in high school, we always kept in touch as best friends until he came into town one day and we finally met up again and fell in love right when we saw each other again after so long.

Answer 1

11 years apart and 11 hours away. What's with the number 11 and you guys? Give him 11 hours then and call him. He might have gotten over his annoyance. Hope you guys patch things up before the 11th hour. He is just upset because things are tough. He will come around if he truly loves you. I can't stay angry for long with my partner.

Answer 2

He broke it off over the ...PHONE?! How tacky! I don't know why there is so much distance between you and him as far as 11 hours apart. And you say you guys are 11 years apart; as in age? Girl, men can be so stupid at times and childish as to tear up pictures and delete them off of a chat site. I dont know how long you guys have been together for either, but it's your choice to make. I don't know what your argument was about either, except that you say it was over your honeymoon. If you are arguing over location, that's a lover's quarrel, but if he is trying to bring someone else on your honeymoon like an ex, or even one of your future in-laws, those are fighting words! Maybe he is too imature to get married because if he called it off stating that your relationship is too much, then maybe he could be doing you a favor. Take this with a grain of salt. What you should do is take care of you. Take some time away from him. Let him call you. He called off the wedding, he deleted the pictures. Go get your nails and hair done, eat some ice cream and watch a good movie on Lifetime! If he's a man, he'll come around, but let him beg. He hurt you! Tell him you don't know if you want to get married, if it is too much stress on him. Hope this helps!

P.S. i just read the rest. Um, if he is so selfish to spend that kind of money on a car and not include you in the decision, think about your future. He will be eating filet mignon while you are eating Top Ramens!

Answer 3

I find it too immature of him to be doing these things, knowing he is a lot older than you. You must have gotten him angry when you told him that he could afford a car that expensive and not a place you want for your honeymoon. He got angry because, maybe he believed it was none of your business if he bought an expensive car. Deleting your photos together is another act of immaturity. He did those things right after the night you fought. And he called it off on the phone? Are you sure he is not seeing someone else? You have the last word, if you want to call him and try to fix things then you should be ready to swallow your pride. If you choose to wait and not do anything then be ready for the consequences, he might just be waiting for this time to come so he could get rid of you. If you are really meant for each other, miracles happen.

Answer 4

You probably don't want to hear this, but perhaps what has happened is for the best. You 2 have age differences and real distance between you, plus in the midst of your engagement there is this statement from him...perhaps the truest answer he could've given you is that the relationship was too much for him. It should be too much for you too.

A fight doesn't have to mean the end, but you should evaluate what he has said and done...at the least, you are learning his style of dealing with disagreements, which you are saying is breaking your heart. Take sometime to look beyond your heart and take a realistic look at life 5, 10 years down the road.

Answer 5

There is too much pressure on both of you! Relax, does is really matter where you go on your honeymoon as long as you are together? Learn to compromise otherwise any marriage either of you have will be doomed.

And never tell anyone what to do with their money! You’d be pissed off if he asked you the same thing, money is a really small issue and not worth loosing someone you love over.

Answer 6

try to get an adult conversation to solve this problem cuz u have been together for a long time and i think this is not the end .. and i think that he deleted your pix cuz he is just angry not cuz he dosent love you anymore .. talk to him .. say sorry if u love him and if he really love you he will accept it and ur honeymoon will be in italy ;)

congratulations and good luck

Answer 7

Is italy that important to you? You could call and talk to him on the phone and come to a compromise. Maybe on your 5 th aniversary he would promise to take you to italy. It doesn't have to be this way, call and talk to him about a compromise. If you really love him, you going to have to call or live with a regret. Take care Heather

Answer 8

if u reely love him call him back and tell him that u could go anywhere he likes and if he dosent want to then just move on ...if he reely did love u he shouldnt have deleted ur photos and say that hes single he obviously thought that it was a mistake to be with u but just try again maybe i am mistaken..if he dosnt want to get back dot beg just move on!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

...He said we couldn't afford it, but I told him why he could afford a 40 thousand dollar car for cash but not a freaking nice honeymoon

Maybe this is why?

if you wanted to go to Italy, why didn't you pay for it.
If i was a man, and you told this to me, id probably leave you too..

GOLD DIGGER!

Answer 10

Its probally gonna be nerves for the marriage coming up. He just needs time to figure it out.