my mom and me!!?

Question

I love my mom and all, but sometimes I get angry and screem then i get gelty what should i do to stop my anger.

Answer 1

If you are between the age of 13-18 it is your hormones raging, combined with your longing for independence, which is part of growing up, but does not make it any easier on you or your mother when it happens.

First of all, forgive yourself...it happens. Second of all, go to your room and cool down...listen to music, play a video game, beat up one of your old stuffed toys...whatever will make you feel better.

Then think about the situation, then come out and calmly discuss what the core issue is with your mother without the emotional response. What was the real problem (not picking up your clothes, missing curfew, inviting friend to spend the night before asking parents, etc.); if it is something you have done wrong and you know it, admit it, you Mom will respect you for that, then have a plan of action of how future similar situations should be dealt with and what boundries should be set (ex: leaving clothes lying around, lose for a month, missing curfew, grounded for a week). Find what you both can agree upon in advance for certain situations.

Answer 2

All teenage girls take their anger out on their Moms. You feel guilty because you are afraid that one day when you display your anger she might stop loving. A Mother's love is unconditional and no matter what you say in the heat of anger, she will always love you. You are going through a very difficult time frame. Things are moving very fast and you change daily. You are growing up and some of you is almost adult and some of you is still a child. Just try to remember that your Mother has a job to do and that is to help you to grown up and be self sufficient so you can go out into the world on your own and feel very confident that you can take care of yourself. You may not always agree with her tactics but I can assure that she is doing the best job she can. So give her a little slack. Children don't come with a direction booklet. As Mothers we have to do what ever works. In a few short years, you and your Mom will be the best of friends. I know this because my daughter and I went through the same thing. You'll be fine.

Answer 3

we all get angry from time to time----its a noraml emotion----what we do with our anger and how we handle it is another issue-----if you find that youre out of control then perhaps you should see a counselor about it---if its just normal anger then try your best to control it and before you blow your top at your mom ---remove yourself from the situation and go for a walk or something--when u have cooled down then you can talk with her., good luck

Answer 4

I believe most of us have experienced what you are experiencing at one point or another weather it's a mother/father or someone we love.

I'm reminded of an old gospel hymn that said, "Give them their flowers while they yet live... speak kind words to them while they can hear them... so that they can feel the comfort that they bring."

Then when you do lose your temper, you know and they know how you feel deep inside. Don't forget to offer an apology if you feel that you have been disrespectful, regardless if you think you were right or wrong.