2007-01-20 03:52:59 · 3 answers · asked by rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe not afraid of commitment, per se. By the tme we reach age 40, we've had several relationships that showed much promise but ultimately failed. This can result in a lack of desire to make the emotional and financial investmant and take the risks that are involved. This is what psychologists would refer to as a conditioned response.
This happens with women as well. I'm finding that many women are so walled in that it is exhausting and frustrating even trying to get inside. Dating in my 40's really is a minefield of defeated expectations. I'm hopeful that I will find a lady who who has not had her spirit crushed and can still love fearlessly. Until then, I'm learning to enjoy the ride but I pull the plug on potential relationships when I see signs that a woman has allowed these emotional scars to diminish her ability to love without games.
I won't settle until I find her.
2007-01-20 04:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so much as commitment but self realization. I'm 50 and I've long thought that to commit to a woman now would mean a short relationship due to the death factor. I'm OK with the thought of death but I can't stand the thought of leaving someone behind and then there's the thought of having children. My father had me when he was 58 and died when I was ten. I grew up basically on my own and that's not the greatest way to grow up. I've always wanted a little girl but5 I think I'm too old now cause I can't provide as well as I should be able to.
So with me it's not a commitment thing but a mortality thing.
2007-01-20 05:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we ARE afraid of commitment, it just has to be with the RIGHT woman. The reason we hedge on commitment is we are not SURE she is the right one to commit to. Once we are convinced, we have no reservations at all.
2007-01-20 03:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋