if you were looking at your life backwards from today forwards...would you do it all the same...or would you wipe the slate clean and start again...or just make a few changes to some of the choices you made???...;0)
2007-01-20 03:45:36 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tacyella...you dont know me...so please dont judge me...if you did...you would know that most of my questions are not in fact even personal to me....but asked as i have an interest in human behaviour and the way we think..........i will respond then in kind saying...how sad is your life for being so blatantly judgemental to a complete stranger you have never had any connection with..........would you say thats a fair judgement????....;0)
2007-01-20 03:59:30 · update #1
My life could be much worse. So going back and changing things might make things worse. I too have been in a loveless, sexless marriage, and I wish that I had a more professional job, But I love my kids.
2007-01-20 03:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by kielbasa7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would start from 13 because before that life was good....after that i changed and turned into a complete idiot...it was only when i reached womanhood that i started to realise what a total mess my life was, when i had my kids i settled down but in the years before i did some crazy things that i am not proud of...so yeah i would like to wipe my slate clean from 13 to 20 and do things right, bit late now though....lol....what's done is done, nowadays i am a 43 year old woman with a peaceful and happy life....and i would not change it for the world...things are good here
2007-01-20 03:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a rather odd life, broken home, abortion at 15, mental, breakdown, depression, psychiatric help, husband whose an alcoholic etc.
But they brought me to here. If I had not had the abortion at 15 I would not have gone to college which I used as an escape from what I had done, if I had not had a breakdown, I would not have taken a year out of uni and met my husband which led to my children being born who I love more than anything...when things are rough its hard but they seem to direct you to happiness.
It all fits into place you cant change a thing or you wouldn't what you are now, good or bad, you have things now that you would miss if you had chose a different path.
2007-01-20 03:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by jamiehattie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've thought about that quite a bit. Sometimes I would like to change things, but if I never experienced those things, I wouldn't be where I am now... I'm the person I am now because of those choices and I feel I'm a strong person with that experience in my bag.. I remind myself to keep my eyes looking forward, the best is yet to come.
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2016-04-22 13:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the artist Faith Evans in her lyrics, "If I had to do it all again, I wouldn't take away the rain because it made me who I am". There is no 'EASY' button in this life that we live. Experience is our best teacher. We didn't come out of the womb walking upright. We had to learn to sit up, crawl, stand and then walk. From infancy and beyond, we 'fall' over so many times. But that makes us stronger. I've been through a lot of $hit in my life that I don't believe was fair...But I give God the praise that I made it through to tell somebody else that you may cry one or two nights but when JOY comes, you will have peace! Hope this helps!
2007-01-20 03:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nique T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'd do a few changes, but just tiny ones. I believe that all the experiences are needed to make us who we are and the choices we make lead us where we are now. And I like being where I am now. Maybe if I could do it all again, I'd just appreciate the ride more, enjoy every moment. Life flies by so quickly, too quickly!
2007-01-20 03:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would DEF make changes to the choices i've made! Wouldnt have stuck in the long, fairly celibate and pretty boring marriage i was in for a start! But life moves on and i dont worry about mistakes i made.
2007-01-20 03:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would make a few changes but nothing too major. I would not have traded in my car for a car that I couldn't afford (it got repoed). Just dumb stuff like that. I would have had the same jobs, married the same guy, lived in the same places. I would have been a little nicer when I dumped my ex though.
2007-01-20 03:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have made many mistakes in my life and made some very bad decisions but i truly believe that we learn and grow from our mistakes.
Our past makes us who we are today and i think that even if we were to go back and change things we would still end up where we are now.
Somethings are just meant to be!!
xxx
2007-01-20 04:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋