but I really don't want to go. It's my husband's aunt. It's not that I didn't like her, I just don't want to be bothered with some of the people that are going to be there. I did offer to make some potato salad for the repass that will be at his Mom's house afterwards. Would it be proper for me just to do that and stay home?
2007-01-20 03:36:36 · 13 answers · asked by Tonya W 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i don't believe in being forced into uncomfortable situations....but i do think you need to show some support for your hubby and his family....i would comprimise and go to either the funeral or the gathering after.....if it were me i'd go to the funeral, i'd get there exactly when it started and leave exactly when it ended-that way you won't have any opportunity to mingle with the people you don't like....or you could make a brief appearance at the gathering after and personally drop off your potatoe salad
2007-01-20 05:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would look very bad if you didn't go to the funeral. There are certain things in life that we don't like doing, but you do it anyways as a show of support to your husband and to the other family members who are being most deeply affected by this death.
Your family will think that you're really selfish if you don't go because there are "other people" who you jus don't feel like seeing. Just sit at the opposite end of the room of the people you don't like, and try to keep yourself busy in conversations with other people, so that you don't have to talk to them.
2007-01-20 11:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. This woman was a member of your husband's family and you attend this funeral with and for him. This is NOT about you.
Do the potato salad as well, because that what friends, neighbors and families do - support one another whenever possible.
As for those people that you don't really like, well, you don't have to seek them out for a conversation. If they come to you, be civil. You don't have to be friendly, just civil.
2007-01-20 11:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go despite your feelings for your husbands family members. You should be there to support your husband, plus if you didn't have a problem with his aunt you should pay respect to her. Most people behave themselves when it comes to a funeral. If they don't know how to act at a funeral then excuse yourself, and meet up with your husband at home.
2007-01-20 12:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by froggi6106 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. You don't want to be bothered ???? This is not about you. Pull on the big girl panties and deal with it. Take yourself and your potato salad and act like a responsible and mature adult . In short.... no , that would not be proper and people would notice your rudeness as well.
2007-01-20 11:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are generally 2 reasons you go to funeral, one is to lend support to those around you who need it and the other is to get support from those around you. It doesnt seem like you were very close to the person who has passed, so the real question is are you and your presence being requested by your husband? Does he need you to be there for him?
2007-01-20 18:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse that would be fine. It would be better then going and causing more grief by forcing yourself to be nice to people you don't like. It would also be a strain on your relationship with the family. Better you send the potatoe salad and stay home....
2007-01-20 12:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ansy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you need to go in respect for you husband, do now worry about the others, they are not why you are there, if your husband wasnt going it would be different, but you are going to show your emotional support of him
2007-01-20 11:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you have to go to support your husband. I hate funerals, the are sad, and make me thingk about dying, but I go.
2007-01-20 12:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have to go. Some things in life are simply unpleasant. Suck it up and show some respect.
2007-01-20 12:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋