I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should get a bf on my own. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?
2007-01-20 03:30:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You handled it right.He hasnt.You left the ball in his court.If he was ever a real friend he will make up with you.Now focus on your work.I personally think you shouldnt get involved with someone you work with anyways.
2007-01-20 03:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You began to develop feelings for him though he has a girlfriend. You told him you liked him and you felt it was best that both of you ignore each other for a while so you can get over him.
I think this part sound OK. You should withdraw yourself if you couldn't handler just be friends with him.
Anyway, he asked you if you wanted to hook up with him.
This he maybe sound like a jerk!!! If he still with the girlfriend? Again, he might just kidding around with you.
You said you did, but then he said you should get a boyfriend on your own.
What a jerk!!! In this part. Alternatively, maybe he really realizes that you very fall for him, when he asked you if you wanted to hook up with him, and you said yes. Therefore, maybe it was no fun for him to kidding around with you any more.
Anyway, during all of this, you got mad at him for jerking your feelings around and you ended up calling him a dog, but then you apologized. The thing that you said all of this via text. The next day you wrote him a letter saying how sorry you were for how you acted, and that it was better that you and he would treat each other, as professionals since he has a girlfriend and you need to move on.
A part it show how a big girl you are. Even the person is maybe a jerk; you still did not stoop down to his level. It is the right thing to do to say sorry to your action if you feel like you did the other people wrong. Alternatively, maybe he also feels like you were going over board on this matter.
The thing is that he ignored you. So far, you and he have been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and you miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever you pass by him, it is awkward. What should you do?
Do nothing for now. Just smile to him and say hello to him when you pass by him next time. If he decides to talk with you, then you just go head and talk with him. Keep it very simple. Are you glad that, he did not end up be your boyfriend after all? Someone else have to put up with him. Or maybe he think you too wield to have fun with or don't want to lost his job because he feel funny about you. I don't think anyone can give you the best answer, except you. Because you work with him, you know him better. It seems like he is a good guy when I really think about it. You wouldn't be missing talking with him if he is not a good guy. Just be nice to a guy that already have a girlfriend, and don't wish for them to break up to go out with you. No matter how bad you want this guy.
2007-01-20 11:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit worrying about your boyfriend/girlfriend problems at work or you might end up without a job. If I was your boss and found out there was a problem, I would not tolerate any more computer e-mail messages between the two of you and have the IT people revoke your e-mail privileges. If that did not solve the problem, I would transfer one or the other or both of you to a different position (assuming there was another position available). Better get your priorities straightened out.
2007-01-20 11:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Denise T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can get over your feelings for him, (without the help of a bf because thats not fair to the bf), you should ask him to his face if you can be just friends and have things like old times. Sometimes its hard to hook up with a guy that you know his habits in relationships. (like he tells you he cheats or is dumping his gf cuz he thinks shes a ***** or whatever)
better to have a friend then no one
2007-01-20 11:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try your best not to speak to him on a personal level, business only :) Also, try to find other guy friends if you miss the friendship, one that doesn't have a gf or any strings attached! This way if you were to begin developing feelings, you may not be let down.
2007-01-20 11:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lynz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him face to face and tell him your sorry for the things you said and that you want to keep talking to him as a freind and that it will not go any further than that. Do not tell him that you still have feelings for him though, because that will just turn everything around again. If he does not accept your apology, then he is not worth talking to anyways! Good luck.
2007-01-20 11:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by aneps_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Act professional at work, like nothing ever happened, especially around others. Never poop where you eat = don't go out with people you work with.
2007-01-20 11:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a boyfriend and let him know that. it is your fault what happened so now u need to leave him alone until he is ready to deal with it
2007-01-20 11:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want rational advice after you've beena ctuing like a jr. high girl? deal with the hole you dug.
2007-01-20 11:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend...you shouldn't mess with him. If someone did that to my boyfriend I'd kick their ***.
2007-01-20 11:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋