2007-01-20 03:25:37 · 27 answers · asked by logan m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No. It's rude to invite people to a wedding shower where gifts are given and not invite them to celebrate your wedding. I don't think you would be very popular as they might think you used them to get a gift at your shower. They might be insulted!
2007-01-20 03:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by sydney77 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No No No!!! It's incredibly tacky to do so. You're saying that some people are good enough for the shower and the wedding, but others only for the shower. A shower is a time for the bride to be "showered" with gifts, so everyone invited is to bring a present. It makes it seem like you're inviting people just to get more presents and then you don't invite them to the wedding, so you save yourself $100 a plate. It makes you look greedy and selfish.
2007-01-20 12:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be inviting anyone. A shower is appropriately thrown by a non-relative of the bride. If asked for a guest list, it should include only those who are invited to the wedding.
2007-01-20 13:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by elsa_bard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not. Anyone being invited to a shower MUST also receive an invitation to the wedding. Otherwise youa re being extremely rude.
2007-01-20 18:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! According to etiquette, if they are invited to the shower, they must be invited to the wedding. Otherwise, it is seen as just a feeble attempt at getting more gifts. Bad form!
2007-01-20 12:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way I would see this to be okay is if you are having strictly a family wedding and everyone knows that is your intentions. Then inviting friends to a shower would not be out of line. This is the only time I would think it to be appropriate.
2007-01-20 12:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so, it gives the impression that its ok for them to give you a present, but still not good enough to come to the actual wedding, kinda makes you look like a moocher. Some people will be ok with it, but I have been in the situation where I was asked to EVERY shower a girl had (3!) and still wasn't good enough to be invited to the wedding and it made me very mad.....
2007-01-20 11:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No... I would feel uncomfortable if I were invited to a shower, purchased a gift, and then was not allowed to attend the wedding. Rather invite fewer people to your shower and wedding, but invite people that are special to you and your partner.
2007-01-20 11:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by lulu101 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no way...that is tacky. if you invite them to your shower, you really should invite them to the wedding. but if you dont invite someone to the shower and just to the wedding, that is fine.
2007-01-20 15:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should never invite guests to your shower if they aren't invited to the wedding sibce the shower is supposed to be just a small, intimate gathering of close freinds and family and the focus is on gifts.
2007-01-20 11:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋