I was seeing a guy who I kind of liked, and then I met his step brother. He had a girlfriend, so I really wasn't that worried about being myself around him. We ended up fooling around and may have gone tooo far, considering he was still with her and I was still into his brother. About a month after we started fooling around we found out she was pregnant. He ended up moving in with my uncle, whom I very close to, and she soon followed. Before she moved in, though, we would still have our secret
"meetings". I know I diserve better than second, but I'm in love with him, and I don't know what to do. I specifically told him to stay with her, because I was afraid he wouldn't take care of her if he didn't. He's unhappy in his relationship, and I feel guilty. I also feel like he's trying to make me wait for him to be a "free man". He's a good guy, I wouldn't have any interest if he wasn't. I just think I may have made a big mistake in giving him away like that. I need advise on what to do.
2007-01-20 03:17:46 · 18 answers · asked by Car Car Vroom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We haven't been physically together for three months, but we see eachother almost everyday, as he lives wtih my uncle whom I'm EXTREMLY close to. I tried the whole staying away thing, because I thought it was just physical too, but I miss him... Honestly, you can think I'm a whore all you want, but his brother popped my cherry, and now hates me. I've been dealing with this for about 7 months. It's not a short term thing, and nor is it just physical.
2007-01-20 03:32:48 · update #1
RUN...... WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR DOING??????
RUN AS FAR, AS FAST AS YOU CAN, GO TOO COLLEGE, GO WORK FOR A NATIONAL FOREST PARK, GO TRAVEL, GO AWAY....
FAR.....FAR...AWAY...
YOU CAN'T HONESTLY BEIEVE YOUR THAT STUPID TOO TRY AND WORK THIS INTO SOME FORM OF NORMAL RELATIONSHIP.... PULL YOUR HEAD OUT AND SEE WHAT YOU HAVE AHOLD OF.... NOTHING... JUST A DUDE, PG. G/F, AND A FREEEKING MESS....
LEAVE, NOW...
GROW A SPINE AND WALK.... NO .. RUN.. AWAY..
EVEN IF YOU DON'T DESERVE BETTER, WHICH YOU PROBABLY DON'T... GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN...!!!!!!
2007-01-20 03:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice Hmmmm!!!
I am 56 years old and have been a marriage counselor for 15 years.In this forum I do not have the time to talk you out of your mistakes. I do want you to considers this.
For I can guarantee you this will happen to you also .
So what are you going to do when you are pregnant and he is off seeing another little girl. What goes around comes around.
If he was such a good guy why is he screwing around on the mother of HIS child.This alone proves he has no commitment nor concern for his own family.
2007-01-20 03:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait n watch/ but remote chancesof his being true to u/ Dont be emotional/ tell him that u are undecided n let him prove/which i think will not be possible/ dont be emotional/ if u r seriousn can not think of any other/ may be u will land into problem/ friendship/love/liking/ marriage/relationshipp r never together. In the present society all above hve no meanings/ give some time to u to think in case u really want to/but it will be a shear waste of time/ accept the reality. pl for give me if i am wrong. R
2007-01-20 03:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a messy situation. You need to tell him to sort things out before you guys have "meetings" and get together. Maybe you should steer clear of sex with him for a while to make sure the same thing doesnt happen to you. If you really love him and he possibly loves you then you guys can wait a while. This is to make sure you both have true feelings and not to hurt the other girlfriends feelings extremely. He should tell her how he feels and maybe offer to help out with the baby if she keeps it.
2007-01-20 03:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will now be a child, you will now have to deal with the other women. Most women will say it is not a problem, but in reality it becomes there problem. Just let it be, there are plenty of other good men out there without baggage.
2007-01-20 03:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is such a good guy why would he cheat with you while his girlfriend is pregnant with his child you are a whore and a home wrecker you both are dogs your not in love with him youre in love with the idea of being with him you should feel guilty you cause alot of it he might just be telling you hes unhappy just to get some
2007-01-20 03:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem to think u had the control, he would not be with her if he didn't want to be. need to leave them alone, to work out their problems. he may not be happy because their are now responsibilities on him he did not want. would u want him leaving u if u were in her shoes? u need to go find someone who is free to be with u. as u will always have this woman in your life, and this child, no matter who he is living with. u need to forget about this one. ofcourse he isn't going to be happy, having a new baby coming, having responsibility he isn't use to. best to not put too much faith in this one, he has way too much baggage to give u what u want in life, being happy in life is alot more than sex and physical love.
2007-01-20 03:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?1fDH
Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.
2017-02-16 02:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away the kid needs a father. the same may happen to you later in life. leave it go
2007-01-20 03:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st ask him how do he feel about you. Than tell how you feel about him but also let him know that your not gonna come between him and his child nor play stepmom.
2007-01-20 03:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋