I'm having this conversation inside my head about someone I've been dating for a couple months now.It's been pretty intense, and we've talked every day, and gotten to really see all sides of each other.He has no real relationship experience, so I've had to kind of guide things along.However, I have past relationship baggage. Recently, I said something to him as a reality check that really hurt his feelings; he kept apologizing and I know I made him feel horrible; he said he needed space to think about himself so he understands why he does those things (but we're still together). Now I have been having thoughts that go on and on.I trust him on the one hand, and he said to have faith and know he just really needs to think about himself.But then all these fears and regrets come about saying what I did.And it goes around and around, feeling angry and justified in saying what I did, then feeling regretful, then trusting, then like we'll never talk again.It sucks. Any advice?
2007-01-20 02:59:59 · 3 answers · asked by whatwouldyoudo 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sure.
get a grip.
you like the guy? stay with him. he is NOT your past relation, and whatever happened back then, does in no way have to happen now.
unless you let it happen.
2007-01-20 03:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by wolschou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needing space means things are moving too fast for him and he wants to keep his options open. That doesn't help resolve your issues, it only buries them. And it's not fair to you. You guys need to talk or split-up. To stop the thought train you need to talk to someone about it and find resolution.
2007-01-20 11:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yoga and mediation
2007-01-20 11:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by LENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋