I love my girlfriend very much, and we both have a high sex drive, however, sometimes I don't just quite get there, I would say like 40% of the time. It feels great and all, but I just can't get over the hill at times. It makes me feel bad because it makes her feel terrible about it, we've tried different positions and stuff like that, but what worked the time before doesn't also work like a charm. What do I do?
2007-01-20 02:48:29 · 18 answers · asked by big boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her know that it just feels so good to you that you can't get it try to relax more and do more forplay this might work or finish by jacking off all over her trust me women like that well i love it
2007-01-20 02:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, there could be a million reasons for this but your on the right track. The last thing I like to tell other people is to see a Doctor. It seems like everyone tells a person asking a question to go and see a doctor and I disagree with them 99% of the time but...In this case, because there are soooo many reasons for this, it would be a good ideal. It could be any thing from Diabetes to medication to just not stimulated enough. See what I mean? Hey, try this... you and your girlfriend watch a porno together and participate orally in fore play while watching the movie without you (not her) going over the edge and see what happens. Take turns going back and forth getting each other as close as you can but the person getting it must get as close as possible but has to say stop! and do not go over. Do this many times over again. after a few times for her, she can have all the ...you know...she can handle but you can and need to get real close, as close as you can get but don't go over the edge. Do this as many times as you need then when it's right, Go for it. This is actually a game I came up with just for fun ,and it's called "Stop! don't c*m". This just might work for you and she'll be happy as well. Good luck to the both of you.
2007-01-20 03:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i didn't know that could happen that often to men. well i would say it may be something psycological. maybe you're under a lot of stress or are thinking about things like work or soemthing with out realizing it. if you aren't completely relaxed it may be the reason. maybe take note of the time of day it happens most often if you're having sex right after you get off of work maybe the day is too fresh in your mind. or if it happens more after you've been drinking maybe that's inhibiting you. or maybe try having a drink to relax and see if that helps. if all else fails go see a doctor and see what they think.
2007-01-20 02:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on this issue for 1. That could be the main reason. But Honestly, don't rush during sex and actually make love to her, slowly. Be in tune with what your doing and not what your trying to accomplish! Good Luck!
2007-01-20 02:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by juscallmesweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to me when I drink too much, sometimes I can't quite seem to get there. You might be too stressed and not relaxing enough or you need more time in between love making sessions.
2007-01-20 02:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop obsessing about it, mate.
Is it really important to you? Just enjoy your sessions with your girlfriend. It doesn't matter if you come or not. It is the intimate relationship with your partner that is the most important. Ask your girlfriend to give you some space, and I guarantee that you will come every single time once you stop thinking about it.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 02:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are thinking about it too much. Try tantric sex. What you do is basically come as close to the person without touching them and hold out for as long as you can. The longer you hold out, the better the sex is once you start. Look it up
2007-01-20 02:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Rhyz Jones 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
- watch some porn or stuff that instigates u
- be patient and dont rush and stress
- go on a holiday ( try a different environment )
- stop doing for a while ( say a week or two ) and then try again
- try changin partners :p
2007-01-20 03:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by thesinmon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to give it a rest for a while. Try different foods to build up your sperm count. That might help with the ump at the end.
2007-01-20 02:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by puppylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to slow down,extra foreplay,visual stimulation if gf will allow and do not think about if i am going to climax . If you do not get off make sure your gf does. sit back and watch her pleasure herself and see if that does not get you over the hill.
2007-01-20 02:54:58 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋