Does anyone else have thier parents or grandparents living with them? My grandma just came to live with my family but i am the one always staying wtih her and working 2 jobs in the evenings. I'm stressed out!
2007-01-20 02:31:06 · 9 answers · asked by shine_on 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey I totally sympathize with you.My husband & I had my mother live with us and she had Alzhiemers and let me tell you I was beyond stressed out.You need to talk with your family and everyone need's to pitch in you all need to support eachother.My mom has passed away and yes caring for her was very stressful but I would do it all over again..If you need someone to talk to feel free to e-mail or IM me..Good Luck and keep your chin up,you are an awesome person.You will be rewarded.
2007-01-20 03:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this is happening to you. I spent a year caring for my grandfather while working a fulltime job as a coalminer. He had had a stroke and needed almost constant care. I would work while he was at home asleep and then come home spend most of the day caring for him.
It's really hard especially when other family members won't help out. I'd talk to other family members and DEMAND, they give you help to care for the elderly person. It's way to much for one person to handle by themselves.
You definately need a break and if you don't get it your health and emotional state will deteriorate rapidly.
If the other family members won't assist, perhaps you could contact the local county home health care office and they could send someone out two or 3 times a week to help out.
This is what my wife and i are doing now as we have her mother who is 83 living with us. Only other thing you could do is put them in a nursing home or assisted living center. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 11:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want any complainers caring for me !!!
This is the very reason that I want to remain independent at all cost just as long as I can.
I do not want to be a burden to anyone.
I don't want to spend my last days feeling like I am in the way or inconveniencing someone.
That would make me feel so unloved and unwanted.
I have 5 grown children and they are wonderful now but if I had to hear one gripe directed at me and I no longer had a home of my own to go to, I would feel so bad.
Nursing homes are my worse nightmare. I have witnessed neglect, roughness, rudeness, disrespect and when the lights went out, brown German roaches running all over the bedside table, headboard and walls. I would rather starve to death in my own home then to go through that.
I don't want any complainers caring for me. Thank You !!!
2007-01-20 11:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my grandfather had a Adominal Aordic Anurissim done like 2 yrs ago my mother and i have been taking care of him for a long time now and havent quit.my mother and i have been so stressed out to. I hope you dont have to quit you job like she did so i wish you good luck in the future oh almost forgot DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE WHAT THEY LIKE SO IF SHE HAS OATMEAL EVERYDAY LET HER BECAUSE WHEN YOU TELL THEM EAT SOME EGGS OR SOMETHING THEY WILL YELL so good luck!
2007-01-20 10:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rewarding will grant to you one way of the other someday. You wouldn't have to do this not that long. Nothing you couldn't handler it. Parents could give their life to their children, but in return it seems like a burden that their children have to put up with. Don't think of what you do is a favorite to them. Do it because you feel good inside to do it. You will make it.
2007-01-20 11:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're about to be in that situation. It's hard, but you're doing a good thing. You just have to hope that there are people around to do the same for you if necessary some day...good luck.
2007-01-20 10:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by jake78745 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey been there done that..had my breakdown. I'm on valume & xanax just to cope. Tell other family members that you need help & can't do it all on your own. DO IT before your in the pharmacy line next to me.
2007-01-20 10:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help or you need to move out! Why do you let others take advantage of your good nature? I know you love grandma, I'm trying to tell you they don't want the responsibility. Why should you?
2007-01-20 11:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm older then you but we had both my parents with us my Dad was very ill,Try telling your family you need some time to do your thing
2007-01-20 10:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋