I've been dating my boyfriend a while and recently he's moved in with me, a while ago I was at his old apt and was playing on his computer and noticed that on his myspace he was flirting with some girl but it really didn't go anywhere so i got over it. This morning my roommate was playing on his computer and was having some problems with cookies so went to clean out some cache files and found that there were like 3 or 4 girls he was doing that with, and one on another site for people who play a specific game.
None of the messages talk about phone numbers, IMs, or meeting. Usually its things like him saying 'I don't want to sound like a perv but you're really cute." ect.
The first one i noticed was a few months ago, the newest one that my roommate saw was for the 12th.. only a week ago.
what do i do? do i say something and if so what do i say? i dont want him to think im spying on him but that hurts my feelings.
Do any of you out there think that what he's doing is fine?
2007-01-20 02:16:49 · 13 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
most of the messages get replied back and forth anywhere from 3 to 10 times then it just stops.. it is possible hes talking to these girls on im and i dont know.
We use separate computers
2007-01-20 02:17:32 · update #1
lol, hey if all else fales you can flirt with me on myspace. www.myspace.com/krakadon talk to you soon, lol you know from what it sounds its really not that big of a deal. he is only being a flirt. for him to basically comment someone is not such a big deal. you maybe wanting to find somthing to upset you, ya kno? i have a girlfriend for 2 years i love her to death never have cheated and never will, however i flrit with gils on the internet a little bit. she knows and doesnt mind. likewise she is actually a little flirty with my friends but i know shes coming home with me,, life is too short to be jeaous... does that answere your question?
2007-01-20 02:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by whatskrak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No what he is doing is not fine...but you dont want to say anyting to soon unitl you get solid proof that he may be cheating on you. If you speak to soon he will go about cheating in other ways that he know for a fact you wouldnt be able to tell or track him. I know speaking form experience....If you confront him now hw will only deny it and throw up you dont trust me....why are you snooping. So like I said get more info before you confront and at that point it is left up to you to continue to deal with him or leave him alone. Goodluck!
2007-01-20 10:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Help-N-Da_ATL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question that you need to ask yourself is do you trust him? and the answers to this is no because you keep checking on what he is doing. And he is also in the wrong for doing what he is doing if he is crossing the line. just by making a comment to another human being telling them that they are cute or whatknot is not wrong it is human nature.since he isn't asking for phone numbers or anything of that nature. should have been a clear sign that nothing is going on. You need to trust the person that your with and have confidence in yourself and that relationship. If you don't there is no need for you to be in one.
2007-01-20 10:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Candy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should talk to him about it. when u do don't make it seems that u r spying , but just ask him a rhetorical question like " how would u feel if i was chatting with other boys online" whatever the answer is that is what u have to say to him. that is not a good sign.
2007-01-20 10:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you said was wrong was that he lives with you. You just dont have patience to wait until you are married
If e livin wit you and not married he aint makin to commitment so he can talk to anyone he wants to
2007-01-20 10:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he act at parties or social events, does he flirt with others in front of you , if not be worried and confront him , life is too short to worry about things like this .
2007-01-20 10:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He he mabe he is just testing you.Ok sorry ummmm... I do not think this is fine.Go up to him and say i walk past your computer and i see your chatting with gurls on myspace.And tell him how you feel.
2007-01-20 10:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a snoop..he should dump you. If you use different computers why was your friend using his?...sounds like you were fishing. You can't be trusted and If Iknew how to contact him, I would.
2007-01-20 10:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you're still dating him....well my advice to u is to talk to him h onestly and tell him exactly wat u told in ur question. U need to tell him "IM NOT TRYING TO SPY ON YOU, BECAUSE UP UNTIL NOW I'VE TRUSTED YOU BUT YOU HAVW GIVEN ME REASON TO NOT TRUST YOU. ARE YOU INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE ELSE OR DO YOU LIKE SOMEONE ELSE. IF YOU DO I DON'T THINK WE SHOULD GO ON BECAUSE THAT WOULD BE HARD TO CHANGE AND I DONT WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU NOT BEING 100% LOYAL. PLEASE TELL ME THE TRUTH"
there that wat u shud say. hope i helped!!! =)
*if he doesn't understand or gets mad, leave him, you don't need that.
2007-01-20 10:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create a different ID. One that he doesn't know about. and play his game. Good luck.
2007-01-20 10:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Slay Specialist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋