ok. My fiance and i our planning on getting married in June. I have put down deposits on everything! ( most refundable) we are not having a major wedding just a intimate one. about (5,000). This is the catch, we i have children from a previous realtionship and got my tubes tied. He and I very much want a child together and we want to untie my tubes this year. We cant afford to do them both being though the procedure is 6,000. were paying for our wedding and everything alone. no help. what can we due to saisfy both of these needs. I have my dress almost every detail for a wedding. any creative ideas to still have a little wedding and baby. dont want to go with a barbecue or anything like that. or should i just have my wedding, then risk the chance of not having the money for baby? HELP!!!!
2007-01-20 01:54:33 · 21 answers · asked by Shampaine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're better off having an inexpensive wedding, and saving the money so you can pay for the surgery to get your tubes untied.
After all, what's more important - a big church wedding, or having a baby? Isn't marriage more about starting a family than it is having a big celebration? If you have to choose - choose the surgery over the big party!
2007-01-20 02:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of creative options to reduce costs of the wedding and still allow yourself to have the surgery. Personally, since you already have the wedding planned and are spending relatively little on it, and keeping it intimate, see if there are ways you could trim down some of the expenses there first, and stash the extra away for the surgery.
You could sell your dress after the ceremony too to get some money toward the surgery. Another option is to rent instead of purchase the decorations and really simplify your flowers and cake to keep costs down. Perhaps consider cutting back on some of the guest list to reduce your costs even more and leave yourselves with more money for the surgery.
The wedding is only one day, you want it memorable, but not if it'll wrech your futures ... so plan wisely and set money aside for the surgery after the wedding, since you've already done all that work and the two of you obvisouly wanted to marry before you thought about the prospect of new children in the relationship.
What about using your tax refunds to fund part of the balance and see if the doctor has a payment option you could use to finance the remainder of the surgery to untie your tubes?
2007-01-20 05:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by adk_medic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the wedding is already planned I would go through with that first and then set up a realistic goal for two or three years down the road for the baby. It gives you a chance to get things in order for a baby to come along and you can still have your special day. I would say do the wedding like it is planned and then instead of buying a bunch of stuff set up a budget and a savings account and start from the start and save for the baby. You could do something like every time you think of stopping for a coffee or fast food (because their both kinda bad for you) I would add that much to the savings account. Little amounts like 4-6 dollars add up quick. Good luck and congrats on the wedding. Also good luck on the baby decision.
2007-01-20 02:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by samantha s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. That quite a high figure for the proceeding.
Suggestion: GO FOR THE WEDDING FIRST. It is the most important thing to do. (Getting married).
Second: Save some money to take a vacation/medical trip to Canada or the US Territory of Puerto Rico, where the procedure will be far more cheaper than in the US Mainland. Both (Canada and Puerto Rico) have great doctors and facilities are excellent.
However, I think that there may be some place near your home where you can get the procedure done, and not cost you 6,000.
Maybe someone here in Yahoo Answers works for a doctor and is willing to ask his/her boss to help you.
2007-01-20 02:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of me says you can have the surgery but there is no guarantee you will get pregnant so enjoy yourself and do the wedding. The other part says the most intimate weddings can cost the price of a justice of peace and bank the money for the surgery. The BEST part of me says...you tied your tubes because you didnt want any more children and say you get pregnant and the marriage doesnt work out...your back to having to raise another child. WOMEN when you tie your tubes do it because no matter what YOU do not want anymore children NO MATTER what or who you meet ..Had this been the case....you wouldnt be in this predictiment.!!!!
2007-01-20 02:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a dre to see if they will take payments towards the precedure? Sometimes they will its kinda layaway procedures lol any way a wedding is a memory that lives forever in a couples minds and with the reversal tubiliazation you may not be successful in having a baby.
Can you use your income tax return money towards a surgery? Or you could save up for a year or two and enjoy your married life a while before having anotherr addition to the family.
2007-01-20 02:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by smurfettewv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the justice of the peace and get married
use the wedding money to untie the tubes and plan a wedding in the near future for an aniversary with honeymoon probably when the child is 3 you will look forward to a gettaway by then the terrible 2s-3 toddler get away
2007-01-20 02:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I think I'd rather spend my money on untying my tubes. If I were in your position I'd probably have a very small wedding - registry and not go to all the expenses that a wedding can cause. I had a church wedding with everything and if I had to do it again, I wouldn't spend all that money I spent for just one day!! If I were you I'd spend my money on untying my tubes and have that baby you both want. Good-luck on deciding and let us know how it goes.
2007-01-20 02:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by snowflake 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your wedding as planned. Save up the money for the operation later on. Is there really such a rush, to have babies ASAP?
Or, consider adopting one of the half a million children in need of homes in our country alone (I am assuming you are in US). If you adopt a waiting child it is often low cost, or sometimes even free.
2007-01-20 10:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-21 01:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋