I've been in a relationship for nearly 7 months now and we have never had a fight! Not that I wanna have fights but it seems like all normal people have fights every now and then! When I do something that upsets him *unintentionally* he calmly confronts me with it. I either agree with him or disagree. If I dont think he had the right to be upset I tell him and then he says that he just feels this way and he cant help it but that doesnt mean I'm wrong. So I just shut up. Next thing you know everything is back to normal. This scenario only happend a coupla times only anyway. Please dont get me wrong, I'm very grateful for not having to go thru all the drama but sometimes I wonder if maybe it's not working or sth. What do people in relationships fight about anyway!?
2007-01-20 01:53:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and btw he does alot of things that annoy me but I just dont like confrontation. I'm the kinda person who bottles up. And such things are usually stupid anyway like him not calling or sth, so I dont make a big deal out of it so I wouldnt sound needy or sappy you know.
2007-01-20 01:54:43 · update #1
I'm that way a lot myself...I avoid conflict. I just stay silent while hurt or resentment builds up. It's not healthy though. If he does sopmething to bug you...tell him but calmly
2007-01-20 02:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by tuxgal3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..You have a very normal relationship.You are both adults and you are acting like it.Fighting in a relationship not only does'nt accomplish anything but it is childish.It sound's like you have a open,honest relationship and great communication skill's.Be proud of what you have and enjoy having a very normal relationship.Everyone will have a disagreement from time to time which is also normal.My husband and I have never had a fight we only have some disagreements.Keep up the good work.
2007-01-20 10:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, its sounds like you are both mature accept each other for who you are and communicate on a level that makes it easy to discuss your issues. He thinks it through and speaks to you like a human being takes into account your feelings, and gives a rational answer.
Sounds to me like you guys have a great way to work out issues and that most of us wish it was that easy.
Although, I can see where you are coming from a good spat with some yelling really can be a rush sometimes, but the anxiety you get after from saying things you dont mean, is very stressful, so to me, Id rather have a nice rational guy like yours.
2007-01-20 10:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE normally fights hun, but u & him are of the same kind ..u are both calm & grownups so that u don' make big deals out of stupid things & thats a good point ..so just thank god 4 that & remember fight grow up when ur under 1 roof!!GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-20 09:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you. sooner or later he is going to dump you.He will go along with anything you say or do. He does not want any arguments or any thing that will interupt his realtioneship. Looks like a very cunning guy.
2007-01-20 10:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys try to avoid "drama". Leave well enough alone. If there's no real reason to fight, don't try to start one. This could lead him to look for the door, ya know?
2007-01-20 09:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never hide how you feel remember he isnt a mind reader and maybe thats how he was raised.he may not like confrontations either.or he is scared of the outcome.just ask.
2007-01-20 09:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by skeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is doing things that annoy you, i would share them with him instead of keeping them all bottled up. if you do that, then it will all come out in one big explosion and you'll have a really big fight on your hands.
2007-01-20 09:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,its not normal...its wierd
2007-01-20 09:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋