When talking to your friends, anywhere (not only in a club or party), and a stranger comes up to you and starts a conversation, will you see it as rude?
What's the best opener and first conversation?
2007-01-20 01:47:23 · 16 answers · asked by sam z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just no cheesy lines like
"Are your feet tired......You've been running through my thoughts all day"
"Hunny where are your wings.....Your the angel I have been praying for"
"Can I get your digits?"
Just be honest and caring. Girls don't need a pick up line. They want to know the real deal. Good luck.
2007-01-20 01:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by samantha s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the stranger presents himself: like a smooth & cocky man of the world, or a kind of "I had to get my nerve up" or "I'm a friendly guy and here you are". A good opener might be, "You all look like you're having a good time, may I join you for a few minutes?" "Just go on with what you were talking about" or "I was admiring your purple boa..." simple humor. compliment a food, ask if they like something there...is this elevator always this slow?....those look like great sandwiches, where did you get them? what's the best one they make?
I would act as if the stranger had come up to the group as a whole, and turn my body so that s/he is included in the whole group. That way, the opening line ANY line, is part of a group thing for awhile, and s/he may or may not fit in. That way, your friends get to vet the person, the person sees you in your natural element as a member of a community and what you're really like. The first conversation comes easier when there are other people around to pick up on it and keep the ball rolling.
Would I see it as rude? Not in a public place where people are mingling or moving about. Yes, if my friends and I are huddled together obviously having a private moment.
2007-01-20 10:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Casperia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone (stranger or not) buts into a conversation in progress, then it's rude (unless it's an emergency).
Best opener/conversation starter depends on the people involved and the situation they are in.
2007-01-20 09:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't interrupt someone who is speaking, but if there's a lull in the conversation, just go up to her and introduce yourself. I never feel annoyed or weirded out if a guy comes up to me with a shy smile at a party and is like "hey I'm so-and-so, wanna dance?" Make sure you're not standing too close or acting strange, have a friendly expression on your face (not leering) and be yourself.
2007-01-20 09:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with me ,boy.
A guy has GOT to be original and charming if he's going to start up a conversation with me.
I dont see it as rude as long as it's done with enough consideration.
I dont want someone staring at my ass a whole party and then coming up to me and saying
Dayam girl, you hot.Wanna hang my place?
..
yea.
I wont even GO there.
I like guys who make eye contact, and make sure i know they've noticed me.
And then come up to me when im free and start with a cool opening liner that makes me laugh.
Not something like
"you know, you've got the most beautiful eyes!"
I'd rather hear something like
"I need help, thinking of bringing my mom here so she can see what i get up to"
or
"oh someone kill me, please tell me you're as bored as me, i need someone to confide in"
or
"yea i cant dance either, is that why your here"
with a BIG BIG smile.
or
"Hey, well, hi, okay i know im nervous, and...okay, hi"
i love cute shy guys, they're fun and even more so when they get around to talking to you.
best opener is usually a well thought out good comment about the surrounding your in.
something thats funny
breaks the ice.
and then an introduction.
dont be too imposing.
have fun!
RAVE
2007-01-20 10:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, did they come up and ask a question, or did they come over just to start talking. If they came over to just start talking and I was in a conceversation already than Yes that would be rude. However if I was just chatting with my friends, and someone came over and started talking to me, than No that would not be rude, if I am out, I am out to meet people!
2007-01-20 09:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by blebert2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask questions to find out if you have any of the same interests. If you find one, it should be really easy to keep the conversations going. And it could be rude, but it depends how how she approaches you.
2007-01-20 09:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by hotchick13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont find it rude if he's not acting rude. and theres' no "standard god way of opening conversation" i know this is confusing... but when guys come up to talk... the ones who seems relaxed are the ones who i'm attracted to most of the times. but i can give you one advice. dont try to act funny in a corny way, if ure not funny, dont try to be.
enjoy : )
2007-01-20 09:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how he presents himself, if he singles out one girl imediately that seems to be intimate in the conversation then yes tats rude but if he talks to the whole goup then finds one particular girl that he like especially thats fine with me.
2007-01-20 09:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really - i just depends on what me and my friends are talking about and what the stranger is talking about.....other than that no......
oh and hey how are u 2day or what's up or something like that
Tara
2007-01-20 09:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by TARA L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋