My boyfriend and i fight a bit. not a ton but enough. He often leaves when he's upset. usually for only an hour or two, but last night he left for the whole night. i kept trying to call him to ask him to come home and not only would he not answer my calls, but when he did, and he heard i was very very sad and depressed that we would be spending the night apart, he says things like "you are going to have to learn to be ok with this" and "this never would have happend if you didnt leave me alone" i cannot worry about him leaving all the time when he's upset at me and i cant be talked to like im 5. i feel that he does things to punish me. i will need to leave the relationship if this continues. this is not how adults deal with their arguments. he does things he promised me he wouldnt and rubs it in my face. i really feel that my feelings are very much pushed aside.
2007-01-20 01:40:52 · 12 answers · asked by kisses00105 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kisses, I think your boyfriend is immature and needs to grow up. If he can't learn to deal with problems/fights in an adult manner without leaving all the time, then I think you need to call it quits and tell him "you are going to have to learn to be ok with this".
2007-01-20 01:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of what you are going through. From what you say I don't believe he is the right one for you.
Perhaps it would be a good idea to surround yourself with friends who love you and will support you.
Kick him to the curb and move on... there is someone out there who will not treat you so unkindly.
You have to realize that you deserve so much happiness in life; yet many times you have to find that happiness within before you can find it in a relationship. No one can make someone else happy.
I believe that when you have to "force" something to be right in a relationship, it is often not the relationship for you.
I know this is hard to hear, please just keep it in mind. When you are ready to move on, you will.
Learn something from every experience and use it to help others in the same situation.
2007-01-20 09:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by vegas02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct.Adults do not act like that.The fcat that he does not care about your feeling's say's it all.Honey you deserve to be treated with respect and he clearly does not respect you.Do what is best for you and leave him.He is not the one for you.I think that you have really answered your own question you know in your heart he is not right for you so now you need to stand up for yourself and make the leap.Good luck to you.The right guy is out there for you be patient you will find him.Great thing's come to those that wait.You will be fine I promise.
2007-01-20 09:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it, he's not mature enough and does not know how to resolve conflicts in an adult manner. He walks away from from his mistakes and blames you for his depression. You aren't responsible for his feelings. He doesn't understand that it takes two to resolve a conflict. Obviously he's not willing to make things better if he chooses to walk away. You seem like a mature, responsible person which is why you deserve better.
2007-01-20 10:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by sportsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I think you are right in every part of your venting letter. I say that as it wasn't put in a question form and your really not after any advice.
You sound like a mature woman. He has issues...
Assure your not expecting too much from the relationship, but if it isn't a healthy relationship then it isn't one... so the decision makes itself apparent.
Now all you have to do is execute the decision.
2007-01-20 09:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like the way he treats you, then why do you call him to come home?
Make up your mind and follow thru with your decision.
Guys should never stay out all night due to arguments.
2007-01-20 09:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously should break up with me. he's not worth it if he treats you this way. Just because you're a women it doesn't mean he can push you around like that. Go find someone else that would treat you equally as a person instead of just by gender. Wish you the best of luck in this.
2007-01-20 09:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sarahie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already have the answer within yourself. Leave him. It will hurt but you will get over it and happier eventually about it. And look back and think.......I am glad I was strong and got out of that. Imagine what my life would have been staying. Good luck!!!
2007-01-20 09:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya u r def not in a good relationship try to talk2 him tell him tat this is not they way grownups handle theyr problems and if he doesnt seem 2 care tell him if he dont straighten out ur leavin him
2007-01-20 09:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hime to grow the f.u.c.k. up and if he doesnt leave him....if hes living with u kick him out and tell him that if he doesnt smartend up that he has to leave n not come back...and if your living with him pack up all of ur stuff and tell him that ur leavin for awhile because you need to think if u really want to be with him or not.....pCe
2007-01-20 09:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by I_LoVe_HiM!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋