This is long but it is worth it. Pls help me?

Question

I need some help with girl prob and some life probs. I dont know why im
> writing to u even if i dont know u, but hope u can help me. I've been
> confused for over 6 months now or maybe longer.
> First, I liked this girl for over a year or more. Well like the situation
> in the site, she is 1 year older than me. And im currently in Form 4 now,
> which means she is sitting for her SPM ( malaysian Exam) this year. Well let
> me start the whole thing off. We started to know each other in January. We
> spent alot of time together, though most of it was with other ppl. In Feb,
> during valentines, she gave me a gift. Well myself, i dont really get
> involved in love life at this age. But she changed me ( even b4 the
> gift). I didnt do anything that time as i wasnt sure if my feelings for her
> is real. So i just left it and we became really close frens.We chatted on9
> for hours and hours.Then maybe cause i didnt give her something for
> valentines, she was kinda close this other guy as i see it, they were
> together as when we talked on9, she kept mentioning his name. Well at that
> time, i thought i shud just backoff from relationships, so i started
> avoiding her.But my feelings were still there for her.1 time, i even walked
> her home and we had fun time together alone. She even gave me a
> nickname....a cute 1. We cared for each other alot.And in skool, though we
> are not in the same class, i know she always keep an eye for me......SHE
> STARES AT ME WHEN I ACT I DONT KNOW SHE IS LOOKING....she even told me i
> have a specialy place in her heart.....
> Thats when the other probs came in. First for my exams, I didnt do very
> well, i did only maybe fairly well( not the normal me). I got like 12th in
> class. Then there was this really long period of time were i didnt talk to
> her for the reason i thought she was with some1 else.well it kinda hurts
> when she mentions guys name in front of me. I dont know why......During that
> time aswell, i experienced a downfall. I was elected as head prefect in my
> school. I shud had been happy but i heard many rumours stating i was second
> choice or thihngs like i dont deserve it. Well i was really depressed and i
> still am. This election thing happened in july.
> In August, I think its been 2 months since i made any contact with the
> girl. I decided i cant go on thinking bout her anymore as it affected my
> studies badly. So 1 day, I asked her out telling her i want to sort things
> out with her. She agreed. That time, I finally told her everything, the
> misunderstandings( why i avoided her.....she knew i avoided her ), and i
> even told her i like her. I dont know why but when we met up she was afraid
> to let her dad see us together. She said she did like me but not now. I said
> its ok......Later on9 on the same day, i talked to her. I asked her what she
> feels about me now.She said im her close and good fren but im diff from
> other ppl as i have a special place in her heart. Then she said that place
> was empty when i avoided her. She also said that i was in that place since
> we met as in got close. I dont know if all that she said was true or was it
> just to make me feel better? Oh, i forgot, her reason was that we both have
> the same principles, thats why we wont further our relationship. Our
> principles are not starting relationships when we are in schooling.Well it
> was true, i did say that a lnog time ago and she remembered it.
> Since that day, I tried to get her off my mind. But the way she treats
> me, is totally diff from how she treats other ppl ( treats me like im her
> boyfren). Thats why im confused.But few days before christmas, i asked her
> out as she was leaving else where. She said she was busy with christmas and
> will contact me later. But she still hasnt. Im wondering if she also feels
> the pain to leave here.I really hope u can help me solve these 2 problems...

Answer 1

I would wait until summer break or until you both finish school before you get romantic. It seems you both have a great deal on your plate from school. Concentrate on making the grade and then you can work on love later. It may be hard to study now but it will pay off. Maybe ask her to study with you somewhere like at a cafe or bookstore. That way you are in public and more likely to study then study one another. She is prolly having a hard time studying too and is trying to distance herself from you because she likes you and wants you both to finish school. Talk to her about studying together that way you are close and can be friends but still apart and you can stand to your end of the deal about no relationships until you finish school. Just tell her you want to be more than friends but will settle with friends until a better time. Who knows you may get to know her better as a friend and your relationship will be better later. Good luck.

Answer 2

Remember what you have to do is concentrate on your school work. this is to prepare you for, what you will benefit, for life. You need to soak in all the education, and experience that can make you a great man. Girls, will come and go, just smile and move on, remember she at this age, is as immature as you, you don't really know what you want, today it may be this, and next year it could be something else, so just be her friend, and keep studying, so you can make a great future for yourself. Have a great New Year

Answer 3

I tell you. Pull your story together, and then send it, and I will try to help you. As it is, I lost track of you before I got to the end of your story, and now I am so messed up I don't know if I dare try to answer another question. Geezzzzzzeeee

Answer 4

Suppose the ex-spouse used to overcome the husband and molest the kids! Suppose she was once an evil shrew who slept with each handyman, plumber, mailman and poolboy that ever set foot close the condo! Suppose the person eventually mentioned "adequate" and observed himself a sort, virtuous lady and now the ex-spouse simply maintains discovering extra methods to torture him - with rotting shellfish! Not so humorous now, is it? But yeah, the story was once lovely humorous.

Answer 5

You know what, you were right! That was to damn looooong! In fact I stopped reading it somewhere in the middle. I COULD see that you easily could have shortened it considerably! That's my advice. Re-write it so it's easier to keep our interest!

Answer 6

Could you repeat that?