Is she worth it, ladies ?

Question

She's a killer, meaning, she can knock a man off his feet with
her drop dead gorgeous looks. I recently met this young
woman, on the city bus. We had a conversation, and decided
we would hook up. The chemistry was strong, and instant.
But she is a divorcee, from NYC. A little bit of baggage, 2 kids,
and few hangups about men. I however, have managed to get
her attention, after failed attempts by my close friend, and another
pal of mine. Now I am in the picture, and she is diggin me. But
I wanna know is it safe for me, to get involved with a hard core
New Yorker woman, with issues ? She seems to be turning
over a new leaf, change of attitude..... And one hopes she is not
being manipulative, and selfish. How do I approach this situation,
without causing chaos ?

I do like her as a person. But she has to
become more of a positive woman. And
based by her impression, she sees
potential in that, by hooking up with me.
So it can work, may be only temporary,
but it will work. What do you think ?
Easy going open minded Sagittarian,
with a sophisticated, sincere, rocksteady
Libra. Best answer wins.

Answer 1

The prospects for this working out do not look promising, but not because of her "baggage" and issues, but yours; your main reason for wanting to be with her is her looks, the chemistry and you talk about her like getting her attention was winning a prize a county fair; not that you really like her as a person...do you?

If she got fat, lost her looks and your friends thought she was a dog, would you still want to date her? As long as you base your reason for getting into a relationship on shallow ones, you are never going to be happy long term in any relationship; once the newness and "chemisty" wears off in a about 6 months, you will be yearning for your next romance fix.

Answer 2

As a mere Brit, I think this situation is fraught with problems ....... you are hooking up with an image of 'drop dead gorgeousness' which is bowling your heart over but your logic side is telling you to beware! And probably for all the right reasons I suspect. You have really therefore answered your own question.
My advice? Enjoy the relationship without strings for now and see where it leads ..... everything we experience is simply a lesson in life and this is just another one. But don't commit in any way and if that scares you, then ease off the connectivity pedal and wind things down. You will be much better rewarded finding a relationship that you can feel warm about from day one! Hope this helps ....

Answer 3

play it cool, dont be too open right away, let her figure out what she wants n give you time to see if shes really changed

Answer 4

why r u asking us? go with yuor own feelings..