My son is 3 1/2yrs old, I have to lay down with him for him to fall asleep. Then I take off and head to bed. He'll crawl into my bed in the middle of the night. I usually end up waking up and transporting him back to his bed but he always comes back.
Do you have any tips on how to make him stay in his own bed? I was thinking of locking him out of my room, when he comes back simply put him back to bed, and keep at it until he gets it. Do you think thats mean? Any suggests would be great.
2007-01-20 01:03:10 · 12 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The only way to do it is to read the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth. He will help you. It is a terrific book. You must do it cold turkey. Just keep him in his bed and his room. Use a reward system. If he stays in his bed all night, he can earn a reward. If he doesn't stay in his bed, he gets a consequence or he doesn't earn the reward at all. Definitely keep him in his room. Put a gate up in the hallway. He will cry and cry for a night or two, but you should take that over years and years of crying and unhealthy sleep habits. Good luck!
2007-01-20 02:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are putting him down for the night, leave for short periods and then come back. Something like "Mommy's just going to the washroom" then go and come back. Gradually leave for longer periods of time until you eventually don't come back. It is re-enforced in him that you are still around even when he can't see you.
As far as getting up in the night, just keep putting him back in bed and he will eventually catch on. Maybe just close your door without locking it and a night light with a switch that he can use to control it is also a good idea.
Each time he gets up give him a sterner and sterner reprimand.
2007-01-20 03:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you listen to what you said in the beginning, the problem is that you are taking off when he falls asleep. this scares him. take it one step at a time with children. Sleep with him for a week, and then, each week, move about six inches to a foot away from him, so for example, next week, you will be close to the end of the bed. the following week, you will be at the end of the bed. The week next, you could perhaps be on the floor of the bed. As you do this, continue to tell him that you are here for him, and that he can call you whenever he needs you. Next thing you know, as you continue this procedure, you will eventually end up at the door, and you will be able to go to your own room. I saw this in a parenting book, and it works!
2007-01-20 01:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by jessrich1000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through this too. I did exactly what you do. I believe kids go through this stage because they start having some fears. I always made a story for him where he could imagine flower fields with a lot of colors. I also would sing for him and tell him that he was safe in his bed, that his bed was some kind of a fortress where nothing could happen to him, so I could start seeing him cuddling in his bed. Then, of course he would crawl into my bed again. Then here we go again. Being patient is part of being a parent. Love does it all.
2007-01-20 01:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Traveler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our son is 2, and we moved him into a toddler bed. We couldn't keep him in his room, and didn't want to lock him in. We decided to Get a cheap, hollow door, and cut it in half, just high enough he can't climb over it. We can lock the door at night so he's not wondering the house, but in an emergency, we can pick him up right over the door.
2007-01-20 12:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dales' Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went through this with two of our kids; all you need to do is put a baby gate across the door of his room, with the door itself open. If he can climb the gate, put two, one above the other. If he cries let him, but he probably won't, I predict he'll either shrug and go back to bed, or lie down by the gate and sleep on the floor, a phase which he'll get tired of in a month or two and he'll stop bothering to get out of bed at all.
2007-01-20 04:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be very mean and terrifying for him to be locked away from his source of comfort and security at night.
I personally found it wonderful to wake up and see my kids in my bed. I really don't get what is bothersome about it, except that people are told that it's wrong. There's nothing wrong with it - it's how we evolved, to NEED to sleep with our parents.
2007-01-20 02:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which of you grow to be actually unsettled and insecure? i think it grow to be your mistake. Why no longer make a huge production of what a huge woman she has grow to be, how mature she is and how proud you're of her. Then enable her comprehend approximately how, once you have been slightly older than she (fabricate this, if needed), you eventually have been given your own room and how proud you have been. enable the story soak in for some days and then attempt to get her to pass out lower back. constantly say issues to make her experience good approximately herself. in no way be unfavorable. enable her think of that shifting is her thought. extra compliment.
2016-10-07 10:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rewards always works with kids or the other way around.
try to tell him if he stays in his own bed he is going to be a big strong man, and if he does not take away one of his favorite toy but if he does he gets a reward
2007-01-20 01:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think that is mean......I have teens they were in and out of my bed until about 9 so what...they are completely normal and secure, independent....go to sleep and feel happy he is not leaving the house
2007-01-20 01:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by cherry 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋