I met one girl in the university last year and we became very close to each other. I became so addicted to her that I could never realise when i started loving her. And I was so hurt when 1 day i told her about my feelings and she replied that whatever hapenned in our relation was for fun. I stopped keeping in touch with her after I finished university but she tried to contact me a few times. Sometimes I feel its very hard for me to keep her away but I am afraid if I will let her back in my life it will cause me pain because of the fact that she dont feel the way I feel for her. I am so confused what to do. Why she keep coming back to me now?
2007-01-20 00:28:08 · 28 answers · asked by why do i miss her 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a complicated question because people are complicated. It might be that she actually realized that what happened was more than just for fun. Or it might be that she is bored and wants to have more fun. Which ever the case you will never know unless you talk to her. Be clear with her and let her know that are not looking to get hurt by her again and that i it's just fun she wants then she can visit the circus. But what ever you do be firm and strong because we women know how to get our way. Just let her know you are not toy and she cant play with your feelings that way.
2007-01-20 00:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let her back into your life you risk the pain returning, and the sad reality that she is not trying to be with you. However if you want to take the risk you can meet to honestly assess her and look into her to see what she is really about. She could be a "ho" and she could have issues. Or she might never be satisfied...and she just needs to see you, because she might secretly wonder if telling you all of that was wrong. SHe wants to see if she made a mistake or not, by letting you go. So if you see her you must do three things!
One dress up your best, and look your hottest! Two... go out to a nice posh bar,and hit on the cocktail waitresses in front of her (compliment their dress) and look at them alot when ordering a drink. Three plan a cell phone call....from a female friend, right in the middle of talking to her,...and act disinterested! When she gets upset...say "hey I am here just for fun, this isn't a big thing you know?? I dont miss you that much, I guess." If she doesnt reveal deep heartfelt feelings for you (at this point say "Its not like you love me or anything anyway.") Then drink a few, treat her like she means nothing to you, and get the last laugh when she leaves very angry and upset!
Why should you do this to her? Because she is LONELY and she is not serious about you. SHe just wants to feel good about herself so she can think, "well he still loves me!" Proove her wrong.....and then she really will see you as a challenge. This might get her to realize how much she missed you. If she pursues you play very hard to get....until she admits that she really wants you back. But listen to everything she says, because I think she is just around to cause you another headache!
2007-01-20 08:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be alot of reasons for her doing this now. Maybe she is interested in you. Whatever the reason may be, you need to sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel about her again, and ask if she would like a relationship that is serious not just for fun.
If she doesn't want a serious relationship, then i'd just be friends and move on until you find the right person that you can live with the rest of your life.
2007-01-20 08:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to her on the phone and hear her side of the story, Maybe you had strong feelings for her but you didn't notice that she didn't feel the same way. I hope you two didn't get intimate with each, because then I have to say she lead you on and that's not right. When you talk to her and she said she doesn't feel the same way, then Don't let her back in your life. F she sound confuse and doesn't know what she wants, dump her you don't need to waste time on someone that can't make decisions. Move on your not getting younger.
2007-01-20 08:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey what you are feeling is very normal.If you re-read what you wrote you have really answered your own question.She told you flat out it was just for fun and if she is trying to contact you again she just want's to have some more fun but she does not want to have a relationship with you.You deserve better don't let her use you and bring you down.She is not the right girl for you and I promise the right one for you will come along.You know in your heart that she will only hurt you again so let her go.Be patient and the right one will come along.You can't force someone to have the same feeling's for you as you do for them it has to come naturally.This girl clearly is not into you like you are for her.You need to completely forget about her in order for you to move on.You can do it have faith in yourself.Good luck to you.
2007-01-20 08:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read your story and would like to tell you. May be she need someone to talk or sharing her feeling. It not say, she need to make a commitment with you, just give her a change to tell you what she need from you. Met her just a friend or can be a good friend, even you ever fall in love with her, is doesn't matter because if you do like that something happen in future you do not know, just not to over reacting with you feeling. Be a gentlemen and control you self just make nothing happen with you last time. It can make her mind full of question with you acting.But do it with honest and and wish of pray. How now may be both of you have a match one day.
2007-01-20 08:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ogek k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why? cuz she misses the friendship u had. any person who'd been in ur "so close" situation with someone would miss the other. dont tell me u dont miss her as the way she is before?? of course u do, and she does 2. it doesnt mean that she comes back cuz she loves u 2. settle the love down for a while, and work out for the friendship. who knows. she might fall in time, and thats when u pick up the love back again (if u can still pick it up).
2007-01-20 08:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by I'm his Winona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was harsh, but everyone in life deserves a second chance.
Here is one of my quotes I developed after a personal life experience:
"If a cup falls from the table and you catch it, don't put it back on that table."
By this I mean, try not to make the same mistake you made when you were with her. I'm just saying that you should at least give her a chance at being her friend.
2007-01-20 08:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize you have answered your own question, IT WILL CAUSE YOU PAIN IF SHE COMES BACK INTO YOUR LIFE! A person should never be with someone if the feeling is not mutual, I believe that is what she tols you sraight out! so what is it that you don't understand? Move on dude there is someone out there worthy of who who are and cares about your feelings. Let this one go>>>
2007-01-20 08:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember she only wanted fun, not a commitment. Evident ally she misses what you guys had. Heck yeah, she took it for granted. Be careful. She might just want fun again. Confront her if you have too, about your last conversation. Don't keep going back to be hit by the crazy stick. Go with your gut.
2007-01-20 08:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋