Every time my BF sees his female friends he lets me know he is going there and why (usually coz they have a problem and want his help) should i worry or is it nothing?
and what is a nice way to tell him i don't like it when he does it?
2007-01-20 00:15:12 · 15 answers · asked by Missty Rain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on the guy - are these girls close friends he has had for a long time or random girls. There is a difference and I think that some guys are able to have friends who are girls without sexual tension. Go with your BF and see what he says about that.
if you dont like it tell him simply that you dont. Just say something along the lines of " I feel a little uncomfortable that you hang out with all of these girl friends. I trust you, but it is weird for me."
if he cares he will talk with you about it and come to a resolution that will work for you both. If he gets upset - why even waste your time?
2007-01-20 00:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happens often and he actually breaks plans with you to take care of these problems then it's time for you to put a foot down.If he wants trust then his friends should be your friends or at the least an acquaintance.You should know who they are and even accompany him to these problem solving events.Be honest with him and let him know that you are not comfortable with these relationships.But also be realistic,if he is going by himself to their house and spending alot of time with them then his thoughts are somewhere other than with you,on the other hand if he spends little time with them and it doesn't happen often then things may be okay,but either way you need to talk and ask him to be honest with you.You will never trust him if this continues.
2007-01-20 08:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by harleyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's tellling you that he's going and what he's doing, so at least he's being open with you and not going behind your back, but if he's spending more time with them than with you, then I'd worry a bit.
Ask yourself: Do you trust him?
If the answer is "no", then you cannot love him and should let him go.
2007-01-20 08:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Cheyuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend used to do this to me all the time, it's to make you jealous and worry just as you are doing now! he clearly wants you to be afraid of losing him to one of them, if there was anything going on between them he wouldn't let you know and would keep it secret.
Just tell him you don't need to know about their problems, and the girls themselves probably wouldn't want you knowing about them either.
hope this helps :]
2007-01-20 08:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by spacedudey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to worry about. I would do the same thing. Just tell him that you're uncomfortable about it and would prefer that they seek help in another peer.
2007-01-20 08:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry.
2007-01-20 08:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by papaz71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He tells u to show u that he is not hiding nothin and if u wanna make sure go there and travel the same way he did
2007-01-20 08:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by Young boi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably telling u why is going there so that u wont worry and that u no he is cheating on u but u really should talk to him find out wats going on he shouldnt be going to girls houses anyway hes got u!
2007-01-20 09:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by bigtt2116 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel... now everything will be a test of trust for the both of you...
Maybe you could tell him that you feel more comfortable if you come with him during one of his superman episodes?
2007-01-20 08:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least he's being upfront and honest (not hiding it from you) why not go with him! and if it bothers you tell him in a nice way
2007-01-20 08:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Robert P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋