should a 12 year old boy have a lock on his door?

Answer 1

That depends on the child realy. Is your child trust worthy and just wants some privacy or is your child looking for a lock on his door to do things that he knows he not allowed to do? You already know the answer to the question.

Answer 2

No. The only way I would agree to this in my home is if the lock was on the outside (a slide lock, not a keyed lock) and was used to keep little brothers and sisters out of the room when the 12 year old was not in the room.

Answer 3

NO!!!!!!!!! why should he???? I mean what is he going to be doing in there? Does he want the lock?? I mean he's a boy all he wants to do is play video games I don't understand. I think that's whats wrong with us parent that we let our children do things that are not necessary and then we don't know why they do what they do...So I think him just closing the door of his room is okay...but then again I use to Lock my door when I was 15 b/c I didn't want anybody seeing me play with Barbies and dancing to music and acting like I was a singer but I am a girl my bother always play out for everyone to see them boys are not shy

Answer 4

First ask yourself, if you had a locked door at that age and did you want one and what would you have wanted one for? Your children are a mirror image of you. They then move off to school and start to find their own identity.

Every boy needs privacy but at what cost? Understanding you want them to develop into strong young independent adults and you want to give them their space, however family should be (just my opinion) open and honest and accepting. If you trust him sure but on the same hand don’t let that trust stop you from guiding their journey.

This other answer had some curious incite.

http://life.familyeducation.com/sexuality/behavioral-problems/41643.html

Answer 5

To answer your question, yes with specific ground rules, such as:

No girls in your room and if you come to the door and need to get in that you are allowed in providing he is decent. Boys this age need a certain amount of privacy. However, with privacy comes responsibility. Tell him that with having that right he also shows he can accept more responsibilities, I mean let's face it at 12 boys are iturning into young men and need to be treated as such. But make no mistake about it, they are still our little boys. Enough said. God Bless.

Answer 6

My gut reaction is no. And I would also like to say that if he lives in your house than it is your call as to whether he have a lock on his door or not. Your house, your rules. That being said, he's 12 and probably wants some privacy and a little respect so knock and announce yourself before you go in.

Answer 7

It shouldn't be necessary. Members of a family should respect each others privacy without the need for locks on the door.

Also incidentally if you live in the UK and he has a TV in his room you'd need to buy him his own TV licence. Just in case you needed to know that.

Answer 8

Absolutely, but if he locks it when he goes out too then when you install the new handle then keep a key incase he loses his or in case you feel that you need to check up on him just make sure you NEVER get caught and tell him that he is still expected to keep him room clean and do periodic inspections in his presence.

Answer 9

Of course he should. What were you doing when you were 12 ? First, it will give him a feeling of real privacy, a place where he can be alone - we all need one of those places. Second, do you really want to walk in on him snapping his carrot ? It would be awkward for you, and really embarassing for him. Give him a hook-latch lock, that you can open with a butter knife in case of emergency, fire, etc.

Answer 10

no......you sshould never let a 12 year old boy have a lock on his room. The reason im saying this is because now he is getting into peer preashure which can conclude drugs ect. I am not saying this to scare you or anything but their are possibilites,