i got proposal from a doctor.
2 yrs back he didnt like me.then he said horoscopes didnt match
.now my father raised dowry and also i got additional degree.also he believes im from royal family.
im 28.even im tensed about age.
i talked to him on phone once.somehow i couldnt like him.i dont know whether im giving too much importance to looks but i didnt like his looks also.
i expressed it but he is ignoring my disinterest.im having panic attacks.
just few months back i got proposal from one dark-looking person.he found out that and feels il like dark persons.
im very shocked from some sad incident,i feel like taking some time to recover.but lot of pressure from family.on otherside i feel im becoming old.im very tensed.even his thoughts are giving me panic attacks.
2007-01-19 23:19:20 · 13 answers · asked by black-magic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THIS.
2007-01-20 04:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am from the USA and really don't have any idea of your kind of life, but I will say it should not give you panic attacks. I am 37 years old, and just found the right man for me about a year ago. We are both 37 and not in a hurry to get married. I think it is better to wait and have a happy life than marry someone you obviously do not like. And this man sounds cruel also. I feel sorry for you.
2007-01-20 00:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont marry that guy who is just getting marreid with for raised dowry..thats sick
do 1 thing...there r so many matrimonial sites n u r also an internet user so u just make ur account there n find guys for u
my nephew waited for the right guy upto the age of 31...n trust me the guy is awesome from every aspect..they r getting married on this 8th feb.
m not saying 2 wait this much but u can wait atleast for 2 or 3 month ...there r sooo many guys other than that dowry greedy doctor
2007-01-22 08:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by stunning.sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ithink u should tell ur parents that u cant live him as u dont like him even a little u feel panicky with him. n think y did he accepted the proposal whn once he rejected u if he wants only money thn it will b hell of a future he will be money grabber so think n b cool tell ur family how u feel n ask them how can they increase the dowry amt if u have got additional degree
2007-01-20 00:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by ahsu254 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is for two people that love each other. Folow your heart not your family opinions. Your having panic attacks now, just wait 20 years and think about what kind of stress you'll be going through then because you are old and spent your life with someone you don't love. Im 26 and Im not married. I'd rather wait for my prince charming!
2007-01-19 23:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u marry a man who has previosly rejected you for any reason, also u may not gel wit a man if u dont think he luks good, coz he wil always be in front of ur eyes once u get married.
i know in india at 28 guls are furious abt marriage bt, wait until u find ur mr.right, coz marriage is an issue where u cant try n adjust.
2007-01-20 01:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what the fuss is all about but you know the answer to that.......DONT! If you are being pressured by your family then set the record straight bout how you feel towards this person.... honey 28 is not old, believe me! Others found their mate in their mid 30's..
2007-01-19 23:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Espanyol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell u frankly i faced the same situation before marriage...mine was an arrange marriage,my father told me to get acquainted with my now husband before marriage...so i did and he was gr88...but due to some inhibitions he was unable to marry for a few years...so my father pressurised me to go to other proposals but i sticked to my decision....its basically ur life ...ma bap shadi kar denge phir zindagi bhar hume nibhana hai...talk to them ..tell them ur decision...age nowadays is not a factor for mareg....dowry asking is another point of concern...condemn the old rituals yaar...its 2007...u know this person is not right for u...now it is u who have to decide....BEST OF LUCK.
2007-01-20 16:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Pooja C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you send out signals that you are willing to do anything to please your parents (if you consent to the arranged marriage), you are indicating to them that you are giving "your" power (power to make your own decisions and to think for yourself) to them and that they can forever control you and your thought/actions. Up until now, just as you have always respected your parents wishes, now they should respect yours. Talk to your parents. Be loving, but be firm about not wanting to marry this person. You have to live "your" life, do not let your parents try to live it (the way "they" want) for you.
2007-01-22 14:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by cj.blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matching partner is a whole life matter. If the habits do not match, one should not marry each other; otherwise it will become a problem for whole life.
2007-01-19 23:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by avtar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Glad I live in the great USA
2007-01-19 23:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋