How can I deal with my overprotective mom?

Question

I'm 13, she treats me with much love, is understanding, when I do something wrong she shows me my mistake, has never given me a harsh punishment. She's always there for me and takes active part in my life. But she's overprotective, wants to know everything about my life, controls everything. I can have fun, can hang out with friends, but she wants to know who they are and wants to know where I am. Everyday she sits me down and asks me how I am, if I'm happy, how school is, if I had any trouble. I have to open up my heart to her. Impossible to hide anything from her. Every night she kisses me good night, and sometimes she comes to my bed to talk with me, and I feel like I was a baby, though I must admit I like these moments of love. She knows when I'm sad or happy. When I grt mad at her she askes me to give her a big hug, I never refuse and most of my anger goes away. How can I deal with a mom I love so much but that's preventing me from growing up?

Answer 1

You said that she let's u have fun and hang out with your friends. She is letting you grow up! How would u like for your mom to all of a sudden stop telling you where she is going or what she is doing. How about everytime she picks up the car keys to leave she just says she's going "out" and doesn't tell you when she is coming back. How about whenever she is on the phone she doesn't tell you who she is talking to or doesn't talk to you about any of her plans , etc...?
You are 13. What can u do at this age? Can u put a roof over your head, pay for medicine and doctor's visits, put clothes on ur own back? NO , at this point u aren't even responsible for buying the toilet paper that you use to wipe your own ****! She's not being OVERPROTECTIVE she is being RESPONSIBLE. You can't see that because you are only 13!

When a teen says that their parent is overprotective it generally means the following; I want to go places, do things, and be with people that I know my mom wouldn't approve of. How can I do them without her knowing about it?

Answer 2

i think u should accept the fact that se deeply cares abt u and let ther continue doing her job. You're only 13 right now, and u reli dont need a lot privacy..at the same time some kids wud die to have a mother like urs..consider yourself fortunate taht u do have a loving mother who is willing to devote her time to show u luv and care. I mean once you're an adult, u're basically on ur own..

but if it is bothering u to the point where u just cant take it ne more, I guess u shud talk to her about giving u a little more space. after all, she seems like an understanding mother. Just tell her that u need 2 grow up and she's holding u back from certain opportunities in life that are essential. And everyone has to be alone in life once, so its best that u start learning a bit whats it gonna be like..

Hope that helps

Answer 3

Wow, you have a wonderful mom.

She is not preventing you from growing up. She is helping you to weather all of the ugly storms of growing up. There are so many things out there that could harm you, there are so many bad choices you could make. But because she is so active in your life and interested, chances are you will stay on the right path.

Bravo to your mom. And bravo to you too for wanting to grow but still wanting to respect your mom. Keep respecting her and you'll look back and thank your lucky stars that she kept you out of trouble.

Answer 4

she's just trying to be a good mom. if parents didn't even put forth at least half as much effort, they wouldn't be any good as parents. beside's you're just 13, how much growing up can you possibly do? your parents, your mom and i'm assuming your dad too, are providing you with a roof over your head, food, transportation, and maybe even a few if not all of the things that you want but don't need. that's a pretty sweet set up. i'm friggin 24 and i'm reading your question getting jealous. i mean, c'mon, you're got this sweet set up and all your mom wants to know is what your doing and who your friends are. i think that's a fair trade.

Answer 5

You my dear do not realize how lucky you are...with all the wierdos in this world today, Your only 13, whats the rush? In my eyes she is an ideal Mom. some Moms are busy going to bars, dates, and not being home to make dinner for their children because after work they can't miss Happy Hour... Give it a good hard look and thank god everynight for her. Talk to her and ask at what age does she think you have to be, when she can trust your judgement and do things on your own. Your still young so don't be hard on her. I repeat you are one lucky girl.

Answer 6

I am 13 too. I think your mom is just worried that its your first teen year. sometimes, my mom just wants to know everything about my life but i still think she is doing it for my sake! But thats just because she cares for you. maybe she wants you to have the best of happiness. i think that this has a solution. you can talk to your mom about it, tell her how it makes YOU feel, and see what happens. Tell her you love her alot, but got your own life now. I think your mom will understand because hey, your mom WAS a teenager once wasn't she??

i hoped i helped you girlfriend!
Take care and good luck! : D

Answer 7

You will grow up soon enough. Be very happy you have the mom you do. When you are older and moved out you will miss her very much. Enjoy the company she wishes to have with you while you can.

Answer 8

I dont think your mom is that bad in fact she sounds almost like the perfect mom...youre in the teenage years now and your against everybody, including your mom and you wish everybody would just back the hell off...youre just 13, of course she wants to know where you are and who with its a dangerous world out there...

ps. you can hide things from her, simply dont tell her all

Answer 9

Trust her, mother knows best. I'm not kidding when you grow up you'll realize she is only doing what is best for you in the longrun of your life. You won't be sorry.