I met this great guy thru Yahoo Personals and on the first time/date we met he said that he loved me. I had only known him for 10 days thru phone/email msgs before. He is a cop. Can this be possible or is he lying and how can I be sure he is telling me the truth. He seems to be for real but I don't trust anyone or believe what people tell me because of my prior bad relationships. How can I really tell if he truly loves me?
2007-01-19 22:56:27 · 20 answers · asked by jebbie4u2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love at first sight is real. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry. Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique!
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight. As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more. Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them? Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I only met once a year ago. I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet. Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me. The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real! I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should you say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe
2007-01-20 14:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in love at first sight, but I dont believe in love at first yahpoo.
first of all just cos he is a cop it dont make him any different from the rest of the world, and infact you can not even be sure that he is a cop, perhaps ask to see his badge, or to see him in uniform or offer to pick him up from work on ur next date! There is no rush, if he loves you ( as he says) he will understand the need for your safty and to look after your self, there are a lot of crazy people in the world after all, infact if he is for real, he will prolly espect the fact you want to amke sure he is real and honest before you go ahead. I met my partner off of yahoo and that was the best thing that ever happened to me, we are getting married later on this year. So do go ahead if you feel it's right for you, just be safe * hugs*
2007-01-20 07:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first... dont take out on others what others have done to u... bad bad thing to do.. it stops u from getting to know someone bc u already labled them as someone else...
second thing... its ok for u to not have the same feelings... tell him that... say i dont know how i truly feel about u i dont think i know u well enough to say how i feel.. and i dont liek to rush into things liek that... if he really loves u he gets it.... if he was just saying that to get into ur pants then eww...
another thing could be that hes desperate or hasnt had a date in a while... then yeah its possible... that he is just in love with the fact that u gave him time of day...
if that whole "i love u" makes u feel that uncomfortable then please let him know... that does seem a lil creepy.. and the internet is full of them... policeman or not... ps... do u really know he is a cop?... its understandable to question who people truly are bc people do lie...
just take ur steps one at a time.. the only way to go
2007-01-20 07:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by red.one9luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you met him on Yahoo personals, so he's probably a loser. Second he said he loved you on the first date, that confirms he's a loser. In his mind he probably is in love with you and will be the worst person for you. He will be jealous of everything you do, and want to know where you are all the time. This will be a very bad idea to keep seeing him.
2007-01-20 07:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by CSM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he can get to know you but it sounds like he is more
in love with the idea of being 'in love'. Take things slowly.
Because if you are not together physically you can not
possibly say that you truly love someone. You don,t get
to know anyone until you live with them anyway. Putting
up with all their little habits. As you have been unlucky
in your past relationships take heed. Only time will tell.
2007-01-20 07:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just see how things go, but don't say you love him back unless you really mean it. It is possible that he could be inlove with you many people out there can fall inlove very easily but most of the time they find out that it's actually not love, just infactuation or the feeling of needing someone. Give him a chance im sure he means well. Good Luck
2007-01-20 07:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!!
When will people learn that there is no LOVE at first sight but only ATTRACTION at first sight?
He may like you or even love you as he said but he doesnt know you well so how can he say such meaningful and sacred words?
I wouldnt really trust him...take it slowly and youll see soon what did he meant by the love thing
2007-01-20 07:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't even know you yet. He hasn't had enough time to even get to know you that well. He either doesn't know what love actually is, or he is desperate to love someone, anyone and is trying to latch on as fast as possible, or he is just telling you what he thinks you want to hear in order to get you into bed. Either or I would leave this one right where he stands if I were you, just some honest advice.
-NmD!
2007-01-20 07:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how u can tel but if u get to know him.. meet up more. find out whether u love him then find out if he REALLY loves u. i knnow a guy who told my friend he loved her. they haad met once and had only known each other for a week. he duznt noe u yet so he may just love ur net personality
2007-01-20 07:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry mate, i don't know any man who would confess to being in love unless he wanted to get in your pants.
for example, my best friend is madly in love with his girlfriend and it's clear she feels the same, but he only said the three little words a few days ago- after over 7 months together.
i think hes probablyt in lust or just desperate to feel loved- or maybe just wants a shag.
2007-01-20 07:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not sure, just take it real slow, be very careful as you don't know him, I don't believe (but I could be wrong) that someone will say I love you on a first date, but like I said take it slow, just one day at a time. Suss him out, ask him where he works, meet him for lunch if you can, who knows, it could be the one, just be careful please.
2007-01-20 07:02:22 · answer #11 · answered by Ree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋