2007-01-19 22:39:08 · 13 answers · asked by Trouble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It even takes time to recover from the pain of a small pinch. Dont worry, if you start it again, it wont be difficult. But you have to trust each other now & make it stronger & got to work on it.. specially the one who was responsible for the first time. The other has to trust the first..
2007-01-19 22:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can, but I can't tell you if you should. Behavior and beliefs are learned and can be unlearned. You can learn to trust again if you wish. I would consider what broke your bond of trust originally. Was it infidelity? That is possible to overcome and to forgive, if you are willing. Was it drugs/ drinking? That cannot be changed unless the user is willing to change. Counseling could help, but I believe it can be accomplished privately, also. Do you want to regain the trust? Is it realistic? Are to willing to begin with small exercises of forgiveness? The issue cannot be ignored. It must be completely discussed between you and your partner. He/she cannot close down on you on this topic. It can only be done gradually. It's not an overnight change. You lost it gradually and can regain it the same way. Like all good practices, it is learned behavior and you need to work, You must commit yourself to this course. Finally, counseling could be helpful and I'd browse the self help section of your local bookstore to see if anything looks useful.
2007-01-19 22:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it matter how long you have been with someone, 7 days, 7 months, 7 years. If you dont trust one another, there is no basis for a relationship. You will never truely feel loved or deserved if you think your SO is not capable of trusting. Unless you get counceling and work real hard at it, the relationship will not change, and neither will your feeling of trust.
2007-01-19 22:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by MazzyStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible...if you want it to work...the two people in the relationship have to work hard at bringing the relationship back...fixing up the broken pieces..or whatever you want to call it...but if it is something you both want...then its possible..but if only one person is doing all the work for the relationship to get better...then the relationship is in big trouble...you two have to pray alone...he has to pray to God and tell him the sins he has done and ask for forgiveness...ask for strength to build this relationship back up if that is what God wants, and you have to do the same thing.
Anything is possible through God..but make sure you ask that God's will be done..because maybe God will bring you back together...or take you both separate ways and show you the two of you who you are really meant to be with..so be ready for God's answer and obey.Goodluck
2007-01-19 23:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on how bad u want the trust back and what u are willing to do to get it back... and it also depends on why the trust was lost... this is a very open question.. but i would suggest counceling... together... and getting to the source of the issue if unknown... and if u want to work hard on it then do that... just know that results dont come in one day.. they take time...
it takes one second to break trust and it could take a lifetime to get it back... thats how trust works...
2007-01-19 22:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by red.one9luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon if both if u want to give each other a second chance n if u r ready u can regain them
2007-01-19 23:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to come clean and tell him you feel dreadful about all the lies you had told but none of them cover up anything horrendous. I suggest you go to conselling about why you did this and tell him that is what you are doing and say you want to be honest and open with him and feel such a fool having done otherwise. Good luck
2016-05-24 00:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would be able too, but you are the only one that can make that decision for your circumstance. I know that I tried to forgive an ex for somthing he did once- and we stayed together for 5 years- but it was always there in the back of my mind- making me feel uncomfortable
2007-01-19 22:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Isabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be depending on the way how the trust has been lost. And it will also be depending on them to get that trust back..
2007-01-19 22:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both make a conscious effort to work at it then yes, otherwise it may be a lost cause.
-NmD!
2007-01-19 22:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋