he is currently living with the girlfriend
2007-01-19 22:34:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think he is a grown man and should do whatever he wanted to do especially if he has a life threatening disease.
-NmD!
2007-01-19 22:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like him to move home. I'd SUPPORT him staying with his girlfriend. If his time in life is limited, let him live it to its fullest with the freedom and happiness of an independent life. Moving back with you is regressing and could be mentally unhealthy. It sends this message: "You're too sick for anyone to care for you except your mother and father." That's not a healthy message, even if its true. Don't act hastily. Let him live with freedom and dignity and be there to give care and support when needed. Cancer can be an ugly illness and sometimes the physical care necessary can be handled more comfortably (emotionally for the patient) by a non-family member.
2007-01-19 23:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you would prefer that he move back home, but the choice is not yours to make. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend, there is not a lot you can do about it.
I would not upset him by saying bad things about his girlfriend --and stay on good terms with her so that she will not prevent you from seeing him.
If this cancer is terminal, you should not waste time and energy on fighting over where he stays. There are many more important things to think about.
2007-01-20 04:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a surving cancer patient myself and I would like to suggest to you that you let your son do what makes him happy. Or talk to your son and his girlfriend about what they would like to do. I can understand you wanting your child home with you, but he needs to make that decision on his own.
Treatment is a very difficult time and maybe you could share his care with his girlfriend, maybe they could stay over a couple of nights a week (if needed) and you and his girlfriend and father could share the responsibility of looking after him after chemo (which I found the worst personally) and my mum and ex husband took in turns to help me, as my ex husband was still working full time.
i wish your son, his girlfriend and yourself all the best of luck through this very difficult time.
xxx
2007-01-19 22:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is his decision to make, if his girlfriend is capable and willing to do so. I think he will need both of you. Is it possible for the two of them to move to your home? Can you visit their home to assist in his care? Where would he have access to the best medical resources? The three of you are in this together; help each other, and don't turn it into a power struggle.
2007-01-19 22:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whichever makes him happy. He is an adult, and as much as many parents want to take care of their children when they're sick, if they're in a loving relationship with someone, maybe the best place is where they feel happiest. If I had a son with cancer, of course I would want him home, but if he's happy with his girlfriend, I would like him to stay where he's happy.
2007-01-19 22:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Enceladus 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I would give is to ask him where he would be more happy. If his girlfriend is a great compassionate caregiver and he would like to stay with her then that is what is best! If he is concerned with his well being in his current situation then coming home is best. Right now, what makes him happy is your foremost concern.
2007-01-19 22:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Trouble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my son at age 26, but I like and agree with Sanna 's answer here. Best of luck to all of you
2007-01-20 05:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they shoul both be invited to live at your home and that way there is more people to care for him when he gets very ill it is hard to care for someone that is that sick alone the all the people that he loves should be working as ateam right now to give him the love and support that he needs at this time ..i am sorry i hope he will be able to beat it good luck
2007-01-19 22:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him move back to home with you and of course together with his girlfriend.
2007-01-19 22:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋