did but he seems worried and tries to ruin my diet guys what do you think?
2007-01-19 22:15:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you have a great guy. he is concerned about your health. you are probably thin, if you realize it or not and he is worried about you making yourself sick.
Now is this an actual diet where you eat healthy with regular proper meals accompanied by exercise? Or are you just not eating or eating and puking.
search BMI calculator. You can get an idea of what a heathy weight for you is. make sure you use the one according to your age group.
If this is just because of his own insecurites ( rule out concern for your health first) try talking to him. If there is no reasoning then just get out. You cant change men.
2007-01-19 22:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an incredible common thing. Lots of husbands and boyfriends are insecure about their partner losing weight and becoming more attractive to other men. Actually it's not only the weight loss but also the additional confidence women gain from getting control over this aspect of their lives. Often they find that they are less inclined to let other people make decisions for them. I worked for Weight Watchers for 2 years and saw this happen time and again with sucessful members.
Unfortunately there is no easy answer. If you try the direct approach of addressing his concerns by telling him just because you are slim and gorgeous doesn't mean you are going to find somebody else, he is likely to deny that he feels that anyway and suggest you must having been thinking about it. If you ask him directly why he is trying to sabotage your efforts to lose weight he will deny that too.
Possibly your best course of action is to explain to him how important it is for you to be sucessful and how happy it will make you. You can say how grateful that you are that he quite clearly loves you just as you are and that this is one of the things that is giving you the strength to change your lifestyle for a happier healthier one. Then tell him which of his actions are unhelpful to you and why, nicely and not in a judgemental way and suggest what you would prefer him to do that would help. However it might seem to you he's probably not doing it on purpose and it probably hasn't even occured to him that you are finding it unhelpful. It is very difficult for people who are not experience it to understand the kind of support somebody losing weight needs, especially as everybody is different.
Good luck and remember the only thing which will prevent you reaching your goal is giving up.
2007-01-20 06:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur fears r unfounded. He may be genuinely concerned about ur health.
Eat nourishing food with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables being part of it. Chew each morsel at least 32 times. This will activate signal to the brain as soon as u have had enough. Besides this change in eating style, take regular light exercises and brisk walks every day. U will be able to gain/shed all extra weight gracefully and in a reasonable time span. No food or drink in between the food and not more than three meals a day, unless u r diabetic. IF U FOLLOW THIS, HE WILL NOT EVEN NOTICE WHAT U R DOING.
2007-01-20 06:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on a lot of things. If he fell in love with you as you are, yea he maybe scarred of what could happen, But are you sure that he is trying to ruin your diet or he is telling you he loves you the way you are? Some men like a women at a certtn size and may not find you "hot" if you lost weight. You need to have a talk with him to find the real answer to this.
2007-01-20 06:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't abnormal but unfortunately it's a very dysfunctional behavior. Some people in relationships do this to their partners out of fear and insecurity. It's not healthy or good. No partner should ever discourage the other from trying to improve themselves. You might want to break up with him, it sounds like he has some problems. This isn't just about your looks, you'll be improving your health and self-esteem also. Why would someone who cares about you try to sabotage this effort? Only if they had emotional problems.
2007-01-20 06:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf lacked confidence and was a little bit chubby.
I was worried when she first wanted to lose weight because she is so hot and I thought that once she lost some weight she would realise that she could have virtually any guy she wanted.
As it turned out we've been together over 5 years now (and she still is hot lol).
My advice, try and get/keep him more involved in your weight loss.
He will get over it because he will know that you aren't going anywhere.
He is only worried because he knows how lucky he is to have you.
Cheers
2007-01-20 06:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Richard D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is inscure and he might feel asif you will leave him when you do all this just tell him that you are going it for a health change and that he should help you and as well become fitter and healther, if he is still rude about it then tell him you need time apart untill he learns to grow up!!
2007-01-20 06:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. He's trying to sabbotage your diet because he's scared you'll get a lot of attention from other men and leave him. You need to reassure him that you wont leave him and ask him to support you.
2007-01-20 06:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by penny century 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure. Don't ever let a guy control you like that. Disfunctional relationship get out. Only then you can be at your best!
2007-01-20 06:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him he's insecure and not a good boyfriend if he's trying to stop you from doing something that's not only healthy but will also make you feel better about yourself
2007-01-20 06:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋